I want to Dive Right In because I mean relationships is just the core of our being In the core of our lives. And as you know, they cause us so much joy, but they also create can create so much pain in our lives and you know, you always say the quality of our relationships, determines the quality of Our Lives. I want to ask you. When did you start to First experience that? When did you first start to notice that? That
I noticed it because there had been such a tremendous Loss of loved ones, a family members of my parents, entire Community. I know, because they came out of World War 2 and the Holocaust as the sole survivors, the absence of the connections was what highlighted the importance of the connections. We talked about people who I will never meet and have never met. We talked about what it means to experience the decimation of a community. T to be immigrants to create new community, to make new friendships. What does it feel like to love again? When you've been so dehumanized? What does it mean to trust again to play again to fall in love to make love? And I think that I would say I was four years old when these conversations began for me that I always thought people, people, people, you can have money. You can have education. If you don't have the loved ones, the people, the real The ones that make the eulogy and not the CV as David Brooks often distinguishes. That that is where it's the heart of the matter lies.
Yes. I think I mean, it's such a beautiful answer and you can see how, how these beautiful purpose that you have today comes from so much pain in one sense and challenging and these these stresses and presses. And if anyone who's stresses and pressures, sorry, if anyone's listening or watching right now are Hope you're hearing how you may be going through a really tough relationship or a tough loss right now, but often that can be the birthplace of so much power and so much greatness,
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