and I love that idea of I think so much more always about like does this feel right and does this feel good and I've been thinking about that a lot lately. I've been thinking how I'm not I'm and I'm still trying to investigate this thought I'm not this is not something I'm sure about. I'm sharing it as a expertise is an experiment and it's the idea of just I'm not sure if asking myself how I feel is always the right question because sometimes You feel like doing something, and sometimes you don't feel like doing something. But it's often the times when you show up even when you don't feel like doing something that something build something is created. There's, there's something there's more of a possibility and opportunity. So I'm just investigating that thought recently around how people go from feeling madly in love to then feeling out of love. When actually, they were never in love in the first place. Like, you rightly said, they may have had Life
store or Love Is Love, is something that you actively cultivate. Yes, you nourish it. You do things that express it, that show the other person that you're thinking of them that are important to you, that you carry them inside of you even when they're not there. I mean II just think, you know, it's an in or out, it's very, very narrow. Now, the other thing is, when you see, you know, how do I feel, I think it's a very important question. Question to ask, but it is one of many questions. Our emotional life is one narrative, then we also have a values life. If I acted right, have I done. According to my principles have that have I done right by virtue of this person to whom I owed something. You know, you don't always feel like going to the gym, but you rarely regret afterwards because it feels good. So sometimes the feeling comes after the ACT, that's it, it always as a proceeding of the ACT, And then sometimes it's not how do I feel? But what am I thinking? That is coloring the way that I feel. So you have behaviors actions, thoughts, feelings, and then you have a spiritual Dimension to what you do as well. And to just sit with the emotional truth as the only truth. I think we miss a few other parts of life. We miss the values. We miss the morality and we miss the spiritual and all four are part of of our life. This
is why I love doing this podcast. I don't have to investigate that tour anymore. You just answered the question for me. You just you gave me exactly what I was looking for. That is such a brilliant answer and I love how you explain the idea that and that's kind of what I was trying to think about and I was playing with was the idea that sometimes you have to do something and you get the feeling afterwards and working out is death. You spoke my language. That's for me, I say to my wife. Every time I get back from tennis which is what I do to exercise. I said to my wife, I say never let me miss a tennis lesson every time I get back. I always tell it, never let me miss a tennis lesson because I always feel phenomenal when I get back, but in the morning, if I'm not feeling up to it, you know, my mind can trick me. And so we have to remind ourselves. So that's such a brilliant answer.
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