know, I I've been working for almost 40 years now. Helping Well with you know the challenges of their relationships. The first thing I would say is Love Is A Verb. It's not a permanent state of enthusiasm. It's not about finding the right person, it's about being the right person. You know, if you just want to be dazzled, you will have an adventure. You will be infatuated. You will fall in love. You will have a love story, maybe. But you won't have a life story. And a life story. Is different from a love story. The Many love stories that are never becoming life stories. You know, people have had beautiful things experiences with others of few days or a few years for that matter, but they don't really integrate To become a life and a life, has more than just a feeling of love. It's to build something. It's sometimes to raise children together. It's sometimes to bury parents together. It's sometimes to deal with illnesses together. It's sometimes to move countries and migrate together. It's a lot of other experiences that make a life. It's building a business, losing a business, or building a second wind after the first one did very well. All of that if you just think of it as I see, You and I have butterflies inside of me and then after a few months, I see you. And I don't feel the same intensity anymore. I'm sorry to say, but your conception of what is love is, not one that will give you that what you are looking for.
Yeah, so, well said,
Love Is About Being the Right Person, Not Finding the Right Person
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