so that fear that fear is That is what? It's all about. And not a positive sense.
what we think is this Potential at every turn that something goes wrong. I know the prison that I have often lived in is what will people think that question of what will people think if it doesn't achieve some result? It doesn't go the way that I wanted to go. And that prison is is, it's a prisoner in my own mind and it's the wrong question. The question is more like what will you think if you don't take this chance, 10 years from now 20 years from now 50 years from now? I don't know your individual situation in life but it sounds like you've done enough thinking to know, it's a coin toss of whether you do it or not. And if it's that realistic that you're really entertaining thinking about this and fearing, that it could go south. Then then it sounds like you have a lot of good reasons to go and do it and that fear. I think can evaporate when you can think through the worst case scenario. And get comfortable with that. Maybe even find the good in that. And when you do that, not only does the fear evaporate but a lot of this psychological constraints that we have start to ease up because we start let go of this immensely specific preference that we have on how everything should turn out when you start to let go of that then and you start to become a little bit more flexible and knowing that, hey, there's a whole range of potential results that are still net positive.
including the worst case scenario and when you feel like there's this whole range, then it allows you to really incorporate information better. allows you to approach each interaction with people with more flexibility with less rigidity of meeting X out of this person needing why out of out of this scenario and that That letting go is freedom. And in many ways, it's freedom from you and I sabotaging our own potential. Because we have this false constraint, this limiting grip on a very narrow set of outcomes because our ego is oriented around achievement or some milestone in our mind instead of an ego oriented around learning which opens up, really 360° potential outcomes that are still net positive.
Fear Evaporates When You Get Comfortable With the Worst-Case Scenario
Fear Of Failure Below the (Hot)Line #10 - James Beshara