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Esther Perel: The effects of trauma, the role of narratives in shaping our worldview, and why we need to accept uncomfortable emotions
The Peter Attia Drive
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Esther Perel: The effects of trauma, the role of narratives in shaping our worldview, and why we need to accept uncomfortable emotions
The Peter Attia Drive
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Peter Attia, Esther Perel
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Aug 16, 2021
Esther Perel: The effects of trauma, the role of narratives in shaping our worldview, and why we need to accept uncomfortable emotions
The Peter Attia Drive
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Aug 16, 2021
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The first thing I got which actually really came back very strongly during the pandemic this year was the notion that everything can disappear in a split second. Don't ever think that what you have is there to stay and is
yours.
Esther's Parents Taught Her the Notion of Impermanence & the Value of Hardship
I don't understand the sentence that 'the purpose of a person's life is happiness.' Happiness cannot be a purpose; happiness is an outcome of multiple purposes for that matter. Happiness emerges out of something; it's not the
goal.
Esther Perel Thinks Happiness Emerges from Purpose; It Shouldn't Be the Goal
On a cultural level, there's been a real push to see sex as a risk factor in America. Sex itself is the risk factor. Whereas, I think the European notion and the pubic health notion in Europe is that sex is a natural part of human development. Being irresponsible is a risk
factor...
How the Bill Clinton Sex Scandal Changed Esther Perel's Life
I think sexuality is a lens. It tells a story of the values, the behaviors, and the attitudes towards the body; towards pleasure; towards power; towards connection; towards the division of spirit and flesh, or mind and body, or all of those
things.
'The Double Flame' By Octavio Paz Taught Esther Sexuality Is a Lens Into Society
What advantage is there to living longer if your relationships are poor and the quality of your relationships, therefore, determines the quality of your
life?
Sitting With Uncomfortable Emotions Is Crucial for Relationship Health
I don't fundamentally believe that one can know oneself without knowing oneself in relationships to
other.
Bettering Your Relationship With Yourself Shouldn't Be Your Organizing Principle
You can't believe everything you think. You can't believe everything you feel. The mind is a very dangerous
organ.
Don't Believe Everything You Think & Feel; the Mind Creates Narratives
Ambivalence is the ability to hold both. I love you and I also have a lot of anger toward you, and those two are coexisting inside of me—rather than I split off one part, and then I attribute it somewhere
else.
Studying Family Therapy Helped Esther Understand Her Mother's Strictness & Father's Kindness
Basically, if you are a curious person in mental health and in psychotherapy per se, which is one practice of mental health, it is an endless, endless
school.
Curiosity & An Endless Appetite for Learning Helped Esther Propel Her Therapy Career
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Peter Attia Intro
Peter Introduces Esther Perel
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Esther Perel Speaks 9 Languages
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Esther Perel Grew Up in Belgium to Two Polish Parents, Both Holocaust Survivors
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Esther Perel Hitchhiked Across America After High School
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How Did Esther Perel's Parents Manage to Survive the Holocaust?
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Esther Perel Used to Live Above Her Family's Clothing Store
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Esther's Parents Taught Her the Notion of Impermanence & the Value of Hardship
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Spa Time & A Strong Community Helped Esther's Parents Cope With Trauma from the Holocaust
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Esther Perel Wrote a Reflective Piece About Her Late Mom on Mother's Day
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Following Her Mother's Death, Esther Perel Struggled to Write 'Mating in Captivity'
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Studying Family Therapy Helped Esther Understand Her Mother's Strictness & Father's Kindness
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Reading Psychology Books Led Esther Perel to a Career in Psychotherapy
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Esther Perel's First Job: Expressive Arts Therapist at a Boston Hospital
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Esther Perel Worked as a Family Therapist at the Massachusetts Mental Health Center
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Curiosity & An Endless Appetite for Learning Helped Esther Propel Her Therapy Career
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How the Bill Clinton Sex Scandal Changed Esther Perel's Life
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'The Double Flame' By Octavio Paz Taught Esther Sexuality Is a Lens Into Society
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The 3 Sexuality Revolutions: Birth Control, Homosexuality, & the Women's Movement
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Like Sexuality, the History of Medicine Is a Lens Into Culture
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Esther Perel Thinks Happiness Emerges from Purpose; It Shouldn't Be the Goal
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Parents Wanting Their Kids to Be Happy Is a Recent Phenomena
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Individualism's Rise Led to the Idea That 'Self-Esteem Is the Most Important Thing'
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Parenting Techniques & Child Development Ideologies Have Changed
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How Evolving Child-Rearing Techniques Affected Esther's Conversations With Patients
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Peter Attia's Dad Was a Workaholic; He Didn't Attend His High School Graduation
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Bettering Your Relationship With Yourself Shouldn't Be Your Organizing Principle
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The Core of Esther Perel's Therapy Work: Changing Narratives
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As a Couples Therapist, Esther Perel Tries to Make Partners Aware of Different Stories
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The Two Most Important Narratives That Affect the Health of a Romantic Relationship
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To Heal from Past Trauma, First Realize Coping Mechanisms Have Become Maladaptive
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The Role of Willpower in Overcoming Coping Mechanisms That Harm Romantic Relationships
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Sitting With Uncomfortable Emotions Is Crucial for Relationship Health
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Don't Believe Everything You Think & Feel; the Mind Creates Narratives
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Is the Key to Resilience the Radical Acceptance of All Emotion?
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What Problem About the Human Condition Is Esther Perel Most Curious About?
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Peter & Esther Outro
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AD: Peter's Podcast Membership Program
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Connect With Peter Online
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Peter Attia Intro
Peter Introduces Esther Perel
Esther Perel Speaks 9 Languages
Esther Perel Grew Up in Belgium to Two Polish Parents, Both Holocaust Survivors
Esther Perel Hitchhiked Across America After High School
How Did Esther Perel's Parents Manage to Survive the Holocaust?
Esther Perel Used to Live Above Her Family's Clothing Store
Esther's Parents Taught Her the Notion of Impermanence & the Value of Hardship
Spa Time & A Strong Community Helped Esther's Parents Cope With Trauma from the Holocaust
Esther Perel Wrote a Reflective Piece About Her Late Mom on Mother's Day
Following Her Mother's Death, Esther Perel Struggled to Write 'Mating in Captivity'
Studying Family Therapy Helped Esther Understand Her Mother's Strictness & Father's Kindness
Reading Psychology Books Led Esther Perel to a Career in Psychotherapy
Esther Perel's First Job: Expressive Arts Therapist at a Boston Hospital
Esther Perel Worked as a Family Therapist at the Massachusetts Mental Health Center
Curiosity & An Endless Appetite for Learning Helped Esther Propel Her Therapy Career
How the Bill Clinton Sex Scandal Changed Esther Perel's Life
'The Double Flame' By Octavio Paz Taught Esther Sexuality Is a Lens Into Society
The 3 Sexuality Revolutions: Birth Control, Homosexuality, & the Women's Movement
Like Sexuality, the History of Medicine Is a Lens Into Culture
Esther Perel Thinks Happiness Emerges from Purpose; It Shouldn't Be the Goal
Parents Wanting Their Kids to Be Happy Is a Recent Phenomena
Individualism's Rise Led to the Idea That 'Self-Esteem Is the Most Important Thing'
Parenting Techniques & Child Development Ideologies Have Changed
How Evolving Child-Rearing Techniques Affected Esther's Conversations With Patients
Peter Attia's Dad Was a Workaholic; He Didn't Attend His High School Graduation
Bettering Your Relationship With Yourself Shouldn't Be Your Organizing Principle
The Core of Esther Perel's Therapy Work: Changing Narratives
As a Couples Therapist, Esther Perel Tries to Make Partners Aware of Different Stories
The Two Most Important Narratives That Affect the Health of a Romantic Relationship
To Heal from Past Trauma, First Realize Coping Mechanisms Have Become Maladaptive
The Role of Willpower in Overcoming Coping Mechanisms That Harm Romantic Relationships
Sitting With Uncomfortable Emotions Is Crucial for Relationship Health
Don't Believe Everything You Think & Feel; the Mind Creates Narratives
Is the Key to Resilience the Radical Acceptance of All Emotion?
What Problem About the Human Condition Is Esther Perel Most Curious About?
Peter & Esther Outro
AD: Peter's Podcast Membership Program
Connect With Peter Online
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