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Thank out man. Thank you guys for the support. Today's guest is the man. That's one way to put it. He's the number one life strategist on the globe on Earth. He's a philanthropist. He's an entrepreneur. He is a best-selling author. There's there's nothing really that he hasn't done. He is an inspiration to many he's worked with some of the most intriguing and
successful people on Earth as an adviser to them. I feel lucky to get to sit down with him and spend some time. Today's guest is mr. Tony Robbins.
Yeah, man. Thanks so much. Dude, really really cool
good to be with you. Yeah, you too, man. So many of my friends are fans of yours, and that's how I became the fan got to listen to your left my tail off here thankfully bring a different color to things. It's
fantastic. Yeah. I don't know what we're doing a lot of times. You know, it's you that's when you do your best, right? Yeah. I'm just blows. You know, what? Yeah, I guess it is man. Yeah, that's true. Actually, it's weird how much you can kind of plan and then but if you can show with a level of not unplanned kind of like spontaneous is
always much more funny and then what
Powerful thing yeah. Yeah. Yeah, I guess you could you probably because you do so many things. I mean even after this CNN here in a lot about you online and and just over the years you do so many things to try and find tune yourself right with you that is a safe way to say that
I know and I am certain fundamentals that I want to cover. But every time you enter an audience and yet 15,000 people, you know,
you got to hold him for 12 hours a day for five or six days when they wouldn't usually sit for, you know,
30 minute video or three hour movie so you got to really be able to adapt.
To feel what's they're just like you and adapting and it's got to be funny. I mean if all you do is get up and talk for 12 hours. You want to kill yourself, right? So yeah, you got to make people laugh and you got to move them. You got to produce all those things because you know time is so relative. Like how long is a long time some people think well, you know Thousand Years some people think two minutes, right? So along times, you're not enjoying yourself, you know minute feels like eternity. But if you're fully engaging enjoying everything like 12 hours goes like that. Yeah, so it's fun to see the impact you can have with people when you're
Adapt it was the same every time also I'd be bored out of
my mind. Just let your live event you mean yeah. Yeah, that's I mean, it's definitely remarkable. Yeah, I think I was thinking about like like tuning like more just like in your regular life and like you're being ready for the day like yes, what is that tuning like for you because that's a constant like that that's always evolving like every couple of months. Now we hear about some new thing or some new method or somebody's you know, people are hiding underground for two hours or whatever. People are, you know, there's people
Who you know, you know won't let their Shadow outside for a month and it's supposed to help them process limp or whatever, you know, so there's there's so many things and what are some things that are you that you do or that that really make you feel like that didn't feel like snake oil kind of you know,
well, you know some things they do I've been doing for like 20 years like, you know, I start every day and a cold plunge
now, it's very popular,
you know ice bath and so forth, but I don't there's never a day. I look forward to it though. I don't wake up and I can't wait to freeze my ass off.
To me. It's a discipline. It's like training my mind besides the physical benefit, you know until good when you go in but you feel amazing coming out. Yes, your entire body gets flooded right against your blood moves but going in it's like I don't negotiate with myself. I don't go. Let me see if I'm ready. It's like I've trained my brain. I say go we go and my home in Sun Valley. I walk through the snow and get in the river. Yeah, you know that's like, you know 41 degrees and I mean it's it's intense, but when you train your brain that when I say go go no negotiation, then that shows up in every
The other party life so I do that I am you know, I work out every day. Obviously, I do a 10-minute process. It's not really a meditation because I'm not good at not thinking and I don't know many people are that have no thoughts but I do a way to kind of condition my nervous system of my mind. It's really simple. I do these three pieces three minutes each. It's only 10 minutes. So if I said 20 minutes people say I don't have time but hmmm Timmons for your life. You don't have a life, right? Yeah. So I just do three minutes of what are the emotions that mess people up in the relationship or their business. It's usually anger or fear.
Or some derivative of those two. So the antidote to those is gratitude. You can't be angry and grateful simultaneously, right? You can't be fearful and grateful simultaneously. So I trained my nervous system by starting every morning. I did this process to change my body as a breathing process. And then I think of one at a time a minute each I see and feel something in my life that I'm really grateful for and I do little things and big things so you don't have to have a giant thing to be grateful. Yeah, and it's real it's not like I'm seeing it over there. It's like I'm experiencing it.
So changes your biochemistry.
Okay, so he's experiencing not to interrupt.
Yeah,
I'll forget what the question is. That's the only reason it's like it's like a desperation. Yeah, so in that moment like because I know we talked about I'll make a gratitude list, right? But sometimes it's like I'm just writing things down and there's no real connection. It's not about won't do much and I know it won't do it's like I know this is going to help at least I'm doing the practice. That's right. I know it's not going to have like a I can tell even right now it's not going to help me that much. So what are you saying that?
That said I close my eyes and you know, sometimes if I said think of a time when you rode a roller coaster and you remembered over there, like see it over there that's called disassociated. But if I get you to imagine being in the front seat and you might tell me I was pretty interesting and if I get to go back to actually the moment when you coming over the edge and then you know, you seem right now you see my all you know, so that's what I do with the Gratitude. I gave him my body as if I was then see it and feel it and experience it and that creates a biochemical change in your body as opposed to a thought a thoughts not enough, right?
Yeah, yeah. Yeah, so you do three of those and then I have three minutes of kind of a cleansing of my body that I do mentally and I kind of a prayer for others and then I do three minutes what I call, you know, three to thrive I think of three things. I want to make happen outcomes results and I don't sit there and beg for them and pray for them. I see them as done. I feel to my celebrate them as done because when your subconscious mind believes it's done. It makes it happen. So it's kind of programming at the whole thing only takes 10 minutes if anybody wants to go then go to Tony Robbins.com forward slash priming. There's no cost for it and shows you how to
But we do, you know 20,000 people in the state. Yeah, and the energy that you have at the end. That's amazing because otherwise you wake up and what do you have the first thing is your phone and your phone has a mixture of things really, you know, if you have you know, like you do a lot of responsibilities and companies and these not looking thing is oh, that's what it's like, it's you don't you're not in control of your life. So I set my life first I prime what I mean by priming is priming as a psychological principle a lot of times when people feel think something dick. Oh, that's my thought but it's been primed by something in the environment.
Don't I give you an interesting study? They did this in Harvard. They took men and women train them as actors. And without did this very simple thing. They would go out to
people and have a cup of
coffee and they rehearse doing it the exact way every time they walk up to you and I'm always doing it. Yeah, they're doing at the mall or someplace else. They see you sitting there and goes to sleep. Yeah, it goes scuse me or University campus and hold the coffee and they could you hold this for a second. They don't ask they put in your hand they look down. So now you some people take it and reaching the pocket did some other phone. Thanks so much. That's it walk away.
Well how those people they did that with had hot coffee the other half had cold iced coffee. So then 15 minutes later approximately 15 to 20 minutes later. Somebody comes by and they have this little sheet, you know the clipboard and they say I've got $20 if you'll give me 60 seconds of your time. Would you take 20 seconds to read this little paragraph of a story and then tell me afterwards. I have two questions. They read the story and they say, okay tell me what was this person? Like, how would you describe this character?
Well first netted the coffee person you mean
but no they don't remember the story think on this story. Now, it's a new person. Okay, 20 bucks. Most people do it 20 bucks for a minute. Okay, I'll do it. Some people's I don't need to 20 bucks. I'll just answer the question. Oh God. It's a little story. It's the same story for everybody. Yeah, and then they asked him afterwards. How would you describe the main character? The people that got hot coffee 81 percent of them say the person is warm and generous when they give them the ice coffee. They don't even know it affected them 80 percent one percent difference is variable will say the
Summers cold or uncaring? No way same story. That's absolutely true. Oh my God, you can do it. You can do this with creativity. If I said to you make if I talk to an audience, I say make this sound of what you think of me think of Microsoft and you get make the sound of apple, right? That's a trillion dollar difference people's response. So they've been creativity tests. Well that people watch a 30 second Apple commercial or just look at the Apple logo and then look at IBM commercial or an IBM logo 20% higher score on a created Tiffany testing.
Take right after that for those who just looked at the Apple commercial. That's it. So we can be influenced so powerfully so I decide I want to advertise on my own mind. I'm not going to somebody else take control. And so I prime myself everyday I prime my brain. So it's in a grateful State. It's an anticipatory State. It's a moving stay because otherwise you get whatever you feel like and I don't know about you there are days I wake up. I don't know what city I'm in.
Oh, yeah body's gone. I
forgot three hours sleep under viewing time zone. So if I didn't reset and to be fake I be getting up trying to talk to people and I'm not real you.
It move people if you're not movie can't touch people if you're not touch you can't make people laugh at is if it doesn't make you laugh, right and that's true. That's really true. So I try to make sure I'm in that place every single day. And then when you do it everyday it trains your nervous system to look for things to be grateful for right in your mind starts to become conditioned because most
people that true that's
absolutely true. If you don't you're just habits, right? So if you don't use your mind your mind lose you it's like technology uses technology to amazing things. Are you gonna let your technology start using you? Your whole life is controlled.
Bam on your phone even for sure and that's his sure. He could be doing anything God It's upsetting. I mean I have to have been obviously I am blockers on my phone now because obviously I can't you know, whatever but um, but that's amazing though. That's something I don't that we don't think about a lot is like instead of just looking at the world. Why don't you clean the weapon that you're looking at the world with you know, you got
because people think of it this way Theo people don't experience life experience the life they focus on right.
So right now there's a if you're happy, you are deleting all the things you could be pissed off about it frustrated worried about the world. If you're unhappy you're deleting all the things that are great in your life and our brains delete and they just start and they generalize so if you don't direct it, you get whatever shows up what's wrong is always available. What's wrong in the world? It's always about what's right is also available. It's just which one you pick and it isn't my positive thinking as I've never been into positive thinking people think I that's what I do. It's not I believe in intelligence and so when you're analyzing
Lousy State of Mind you treat people poorly. You don't perform at the highest level. You're not happy. When you're in a great state of mind treat people better performative different place in is one of them uses humor. So valuable, it changes people State and you know, all of a sudden they're in a different place. They respond to different place when they're laughing them when they're pissed off. Yeah. So why not train yourself to do that, you've trained yourself to find what's an entertaining or funny and just about anything is what makes you as good as you are in that area you have developed patterns of how to do it. You may not even conscious of them all.
Yeah. I don't think I was kind I don't think they're conscious patterns.
I think but your lesson I'd eliminate sometimes yet. The best part is when my brain will make me laugh and I didn't even have anything to do, you know, like because after also conscious yeah, you're like, you're like, I'll sometimes I'll just bust out laughing. I like thank you so much, like like my brain like just like does like a little joke from your something and this this goes right into something I was saying about since it's like the new year, you know and happy New Year to you and um and yeah because people so often say like New Year's resolution or they're like, but that's doesn't really
Lee that's kind of like a one and done it feels at home most outdated that idea but how do you cheat I guess and you just kind of answered I guess like how we change our perspective so like so we could change our attitude. You know, that's really what you need to have a new experience.
There's three decisions. You're making every moment you're alive your audience could test this out. The first one is what you going to focus on now when I say make these decisions though, I don't mean you're making them all consciously, right? So whenever you focus on that's what you feel if you're supposed to meet your boyfriend girlfriend husband.
Whoever at 7:00 you get there at 7:00 or not there. Some people are pissed off. Some people are worried the same event and it's 7:30 and they're not there. They've not call the not taxed now would be feeling some people. I'm really pissed off. I'm really worried. I'm really single. Yeah single. I'm it's 8:30 a.m. Showed up. I'm full. I didn't wait for the bastard. But the point is whether you're angry or whether you were worried had nothing to do with the event. It's the habits of your mind the person who's worried thinks. Well, maybe going to car accident persons pissed off.
They did it again. So the first decision you make is whether you going to focus on and most people have patterns of focus. Yeah. Yeah.
So there's three. I'll give you your audience
can test out do you tend to focus more on what you have or what's missing?
What's missing? Yeah, you tend to focus more on what you can control what you can't
control probably what I can't control because but it's out of desperation because I feel like I have to control everything.
Well, that's not a bad thing. You can't control everything right? It's an illusion, but you can influence so much you can control living in you. Okay? And then the third one do you tend to content focus more on the past the present or the future the past? Yeah. So those three patterns if you do all three of them if you constantly look at what's missing
It's hard to overstate fulfilled or happy. Yeah, so you have to always do something to try to make yourself happy because you're always noticing what's missing. That's just where your focus goes. There's always something to say there's always something that's not missing. There's always something beautiful you focus on what you have. You're going to be more fulfilled second one. If you looks when you can control what you do, it's why you have your own business is why who you are a lot of people focus on what they can't control it's overwhelming stressed out. They think of all those things. So if you constant focus on What's Missing You can't control and the past but you can't change what that makes
Is either angry or sad or frustrated or depressed? I see people all the time that come to me, you know groups. I just did this thing for Stanford with a two years ago when everybody's in covid they can t because two of their professors came to my seminar for five days both were, you know, clinically depressed they came back with no depression symptoms. They said you know, how do you do this? I mean, do you have any data as a while? I got millions of people than my programs. You don't know why scientific down I said, well you want to do a test. They said sure I said what you want to test on and they said depression and I
Said well, I already know what triggers that for anybody. You can give them drugs all day long. All Prozac and Zoloft does is none things but I just
got off of mine o re good for you. Yeah, I'm like 17 days off right now. So awesome. Well, let's see how it goes
see a ghost but your two patterns you just did. Yeah consciously Focus what's missing and the past will make it a little harder for you to be happy on a long-term basis right? Crack yourself up. So in the moment you change your state, but if you wanted a long-term change, all you have to do is change the
It's just a habit of focusing on what you do have but your life is
magnificent. Yeah, I got if I try a lot. I just have to make sure I
was asked to get conditioned right and then the second one so it's on it so you don't have to think about it you're writing about it doesn't work. Right because by that time it's too late and then the second one is focusing on what you can control the already do but the past versus the present and the future enjoying the present and building the future just that little pattern change somebody's life. You know, people are on Prozac and Zoloft Alaskan an audience. I got fifteen twenty thousand people I say
How many of you know someone who's on antidepressants and they're still depressed and 95% of rumors their hand and the reason is because those drugs numb you but they don't charge the cause as long as you constantly focus on What's Missing From my life and constantly look at the past which has control and if you on top of it, you're focused on you know, what you can't
control that's why I got off because that I couldn't be feelings. I was trying to like be in relationships and stuff and it's like girls would be like do you like me? I'm like, I don't know, you know,
like well, everything is literally have to look at like
History of Psych it's almost like I would have to look at my own past for Clues right like on how I felt and so because you're being altered right being altered and not exactly just to it was too hard to get a real feeling out of myself. And so I was like man, I got to have some feelings or I'm not gonna be able to make some choices for myself
for you. That's what sounds awesome but I want, you know, I want you know how the normal treatment is to put you on antidepressants and therapy or one or the other or both, right? So I asked the guys at Stanford. I said you want to study it but one of the meta studies you and your multiples.
Studies they give you the averages and they said well the meta study show that 60% of people who take n depressants and now they know ssris don't even work. There was a cover of Music a year ago September. You don't know this email me. I think he mailed. Oh really? Yeah. I don't go look at September September of 2022 cover of Newsweek says meta studies show the ssris don't work, but we keep selling them. Right? What am I but watch this? Here's the stats 60% don't improve at all.
40% of people improve the average Improvement according to meta studies is 50% So they're half as depressed as they were now some people get well but it's a very small percentage. So I so you could almost do that with a placebo in the guy laughed and said, yeah I said what's the best study of ever done the most effective study in science? They said there was 39 at Johns Hopkins about five and a half year or five years ago by me and who what did
some Stanford that was Johns Hopkins
Johns Hopkins Hospital has some of the best researchers and so far we're good. And so they did this study and here's what they did.
They get people so assignment for a month magic mushrooms and cognitive therapy. I said, well you Oughta get some change out of that because yeah, it was the greatest change they've ever seen in the history of Psychiatry six weeks after treatment 53% scuse me fifty four percent of the people had no symptoms of depression.
I had I take four stems and a Diet Coke. I'll talk to my sister for an hour. So I fully support
that sir, but unfortunately you're saying there's new math.
There's new methods, but but I said, okay, that's amazing. But I said I think we'll do better but let's see so they did a group they modeled that same drug study the same thing with me with no drugs. I put people in this sixth a seminar. I have called Date With Destiny and they picked all the people and put them all
quite irrational seminar, right?
Yeah. So one of the things here and what was amazing was the results were so profound that they don't want to get cancelled. So they sent the data blind after three other organizations for they published it and they published in the Journal of Psychiatry last year results, huh, six weeks later with no drugs.
Just six days of rewiring your brain 100% of the people know depression whatsoever. Even better 17% of people had suicidal ideation. No suicidal ideation. Here's the best part 11 months later. They followed up 72 percent reduction in negative emotion still no depression 52 percent Improvement and positive emotions. So when you make a shift in a way you use your brain and it gets conditioned and it does get condition. So they were studying how it works. And so there's a biochemical
That actually happens in the
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you know, you know, like if you wanted to go do a I don't know if you're into racing at all, but like a LeMans a 24-hour race or Baja 1000. You could have an amazing car Ferrari. I'm sure it's not going to last you have to re-engineer that car to be able to take on the desert or dry for 24 hours or go to the ones that are in the desert there where they have a pipe so that when you go down it still get the air to the combustion.
One of the engine. Yeah, we have to re-engineer ourselves to the Times rent. We're in a time right now. It feels like winter when there's more fear than usual. Yeah. It's a season it will pass you think that's true. I know it's true. You study history think of it this way. There's
patterns because it because we see a lot of stuff right? It was like there's so much things going on. It's like, you know, there's all kinds of yeah, like we all it feels like that's true.
But sometimes it's constantly fed to you
right here. If you need to know if it's true or
if it's just may be true, but you're it's disproportion. It's like you
No, 30 years ago. There was an aircraft crash in some third for third world country. But now you know in 10 seconds in your pocket. So, you know when people over react to something you've ever gotten pissed off over something little really you over react is it's not that moment. It's that it happened again. I did it again, right so I call that stacking. So when you stack problem problem problem pretty soon your whole biochemistry, it's hard to get back but you can also stack the good that's why I do the morning.
Priming. So when you stack a good thing on top of good thing on top of a good thing your whole bio chemistry changes. Yeah. Now you see the world through different eyes. It's not like you're guaranteed to succeed but your probabilities of pulling it off and enjoying yourself and up about 1,000
following. Yeah, like I'll go to I go to like AA meetings I go to recovery meetings, right? So and I notice if I go to a couple in a day, dude by Friday, I'm going to fucking good
guy,
you know my colleague in people. I'm like telling blind people on the heel and I can't
And I'll do this for like 30 seconds on if you know, it's like you just feel like but you're right. It's a but it takes me I have to stack them up and it's like that's right. And then it's usually a couple days later that I even on like Mel. Why do I feel so great. It's like oh because I did this work over the past 10
days, you know and what you did there were actually when you really do it strongly like that. It creates a biochemical change and that creates a new habit in your nervous system. So
what notices that he are in your body like your your your Chemistry in your body actually notices you're doing something different.
It's just you're so
here's what they found. They did my work with a top Professor who is highly rated at Stanford. He did my work word for word, but he didn't do what I do an event which is change your biochemistry change the way you move you breathe your voice all those things change it he didn't do that. He just taught it. He got unbelievable results. He's a tremendous teaching Professor, but mine were three hundred percent greater because the biochemical change so they follow me for three years. I mean where the 68 thousand dollar device that measures heart rate variability they come during every
You can take my saliva that took my blood only one pressure, huh? It was crazy. But they did it on several events over three years and they found all these wild things
like and he's a Stanford did it? Yes
Stanford you look and what they found was the same group of Stanford in partnership with a group that's working like Tom Brady and some of the greatest athletes and they have this thing they called the championship biochemistry. And so if Tom Brady is down in the fourth quarter by 10 points since Super Bowl house, like I come back and win reason is because there's a
A part of him that goes in this state and I do it every time I get on stage but my audience does it as well and they measure it. So what happens is testosterone explodes to my body that gives you incredible drive and push and I've got to keep this building going imagine, you know ten thousand to ten thousand people. I got to reach the guy at the back for 12 straight hours. The level of intensity is amazing playfulness fun, but it's still intensity, but normally that has a lot of stress with it my cortisol, which is the stress hormone drops to the floor same as Tom. So what you get is
Total drive doesn't guarantee success but total drive and not a lot of stress so you're able to stay centered and go so my audience of this amazing thing the study measured me they found it. Like, you know, I jump a thousand times in a day on stage and I weigh 290 pounds every time I jump and come down. It's four times your body weight. So imagine a thousand pounds of pressure a thousand times in a day. So my bone density is you look at I look like a gorilla underneath it. Yeah. I got it for like 40 years, right? So on the other hand, they also saw.
That you know, if you're running with somebody and you can't talk any longer you've gotten to a for of lactic acid. I'm in an 18 and still speaking. So then they start testing my audiences and they saw it looks like music when I go into these states the audience follows me and they measured it then when covid happened I had old people at home. And so we had people in 195 countries. So they went to people in 40 countries and measured them in real time as we're doing this imagine it lies on the room and they bring in the over the I built this what happened was
you
Like a larger scale Zoom. Yeah, 20 foot high LED screens .67 highest resolution, I built the piece so I can bring people up Aragon from Zoom he built the system. So instead of thousand people I could do 25,000. I've done a million and a half people in one seminar to give you an idea for four days. It's been wild. So but when I built this I want to figure out how people is like could really work through these screens. It was just out of necessity because every stadium was closed the governor, California calls me and says March of 2020. We're about to have an event for 12,500 people and he goes, yeah, and we put a
Under people in the stadium. What are you talking about? Right it's not aware that so I was like screw you will move to Vegas. They'll never shut down thing as they shut down Vegas like ten days before we move 12,500 people there and I went will go to Texas the governor there Tommy. He'll never then he he meant right? Yeah. Well doing Joe Rogan's yard. We did it movie theaters 420, why'd you put 10 people we did 1250 movie theaters. They shut down the movie theaters. So I booked the studio so they came and measured the people in all these different countries. And what's Wild is like we start here at 10:00.
M4 like afford a seminar and I had like I just did one for 14,000 people and we had about a couple thousand people from Australia. We're starting at any time. It's midnight for them. I got 12 or 13 hours. So they go from Midnight to 1:00 in the afternoon for four straight days and nights that we lost 1% of the people it a good night. So they have but their biochemistry is changing the same as mine. And so that's why a year later. The changes are still there without the member interacting with me again because people will this last well, that's why Stanford at the study. So that's what the study is. He
Saying so when the
study were talking about a little bit ago that was they went back to people that had gone to your seminars, correct? And they and they measured him and a year later. You said 50 something percent of them still had
no, sir reduction of 72 percent negative emotions increase of pause emotions 52% But now, you know people since covid would got so used to being home people. Like I should have to go to work. I don't want to drive to work and people offices want people to come to work. There's all these conflicts and there's a lot more people being able to work at home. But now if you read the
These people are more than happy now than they were at the peak of covid because they wanted to be a home but now they feel isolated. Yeah, you know, and so what they don't understand is the path of least resistance never makes you happy. It's like it does you have to push yourself when people talk about self-esteem. I hate this certain term like so many kids were taught to get a participation trophy for something and they thought I'm going to build their self-esteem this way people can tell your whole life. You're a piece of crap and your brain go screw you I'll show you and you become
somebody people your whole life can tell you you're beautiful. You're perfect. You're the best and you can still not believe them be depressed about your life and think you're nobody your life self-esteem. Your self-esteem esteem for yourself is earned by you doing something difficult for you. When you do something that's incredibly hard and you push through it. Your brain starts to have inner Pride not fake ego Pride, right you're saying none of
that other two said that outside of stuff doesn't really matter. Your self-esteem is truly based on your relationship with yourself
your ass and your ability to grow. I mean what makes people
Happy progress if you get some big ol um, she has a lot of them in your life. Right? There's one of two responses when you achieve the goal. Yeah, horrible one is is this all the Reds which lot of people do after fighting for a goal? And this all their? Oh, yeah, but the other one is let's say all this is amazing. How long does that amazing feeling of achieving your goal last six years a year six months six days six hours. What would you
say? They actually for me? It doesn't last really long. I don't feel that.
And of stuff very
much. It was also you being done by those drugs, right? But for most people somewhere between six hours and probably six weeks. That's not super long. No and so the purpose of life is not just to hit your goals your goals or your getting what you want doesn't make you happy what makes you happy is who you become in pursuit of those goals. So the growth of progress even if you don't achieve it yet, but you start losing weight or you start building muscle you start making relationship better. Are you start to build a business building the progress is what makes you feel alive because we're all made to either grow or die.
If your relationships not growing its dying of your business not growing it's dying. There's no in-between bullshit at doesn't work. So and when you grow you have something to give and what makes people fulfilled is growing and giving sharing it with some because there's only so much joy you can have by yourself drugs alcohol Entertainment sex with yourself, whatever by yourself there's a limit to what you can feel. That's why whenever something great happens most of us want to tell someone to share with somebody we love because when you share it it magnifies it so that's really what
We're trying to show people is how to create that kind of progress and a problem in New Year's is as you said a resolution is with like what do I want? And they don't think about any depth they say it and here's the problem. Yeah, they don't take it beyond that. They have no plan right or it's a very simple plan. Yeah and by February 1, but the first of February 95% of those things are already broken, but
what they realize yeah, it seems like my New Year's resolution December,
you know, well you need to pass it. So if you want to make your relationship better your business better your life better and
With knowing what you want. You can say what I want. Why do I want it? And what kind of person would have to be to have that stay and then you go to the Second Step where you got to tell yourself find and tell yourself the truth, which is there's a gap between where I am aware want to be and don't bullshit yourself. Don't go I'm a little overweight or I'm fat because I'm big boned know you've had could you have poor habits, right? That's how it
works. Yeah some people yeah. I remember this people always like he'll grow out of it and I'm like dude. He's 34 like my buddies Grandma's like it's just baby fat. He'll grow.
So out of it as like we all have different but it's like he fuck, you know, Ronnie
angry over. There we go. Go out of it is you have to see what's causing you to have that Gap and it's one of only a couple things either you got fear. So you're not taking action or you might have for example some limiting beliefs like it never works. I've tried everything the good ones are gone. So you don't even begin or you might have some emotion gets in the way or a bad habit, or maybe just missing the skill like no one's ever taught you how to make money or grow business, or have a great relationship.
So you're learning on the job and it's painful to learn the job. So I've always said find somebody's extraordinary at something or many people think about what they're doing and do that. It's called modeling. Okay Reinventing the wheel now you can add yourself to it. Yeah, but modeling gives you the pathway to power and then once you know, what you want why you wanted your honest about the Gap you come up with a quick plan. Not a perfect one and you start taking action and then you face your demons you slay your dragons what needs to change like? Okay. I'm never going to relationship if I'm numb all the time.
I got it. I got to change this. It's hard when I'm when I'm gonna do the hard thing, right and we do the hard thing you get momentum and then what was hard becomes easy after a while and that's really the
secret dang. Gosh. I made a calculated even go through that again. But but that's okay, you know, but it's a lot of great information, you know,
and I can talk probably cause I'm so passionate but you know, you take people through it and event where they get to process it and take time through it to give you
since you know, I appreciate it man. I feel like it's nice you to share that stuff.
This I know it's stuff that you learned over the years and you know, and it's a lot of value in that and that you even taking that time to just share that kind of stuff with us. And I know you guys have a program. It's not the date with Destiny with you guys have another program you
guys do. Oh, yeah that program started with covid because when all the whole world shutdown is like people need this right now, how do I help so I built that studio I told you about and I was like, okay, why don't I do it where you don't have travel because they can't why don't make it so there's no money involved and
Just serve as many people as we can and so I put together a this three-day immersion of just three hours a day not 12 and I said, let's give people an experience where they can really transform the first year. We had a half a million people do it last year and a million half people. So we're doing one more this year
on the cuz on at the same time all the same time
Lao and 195 countries every country in the world. So fantastic. So we're doing when this year January 25th through the 27th. It's absolutely free. There is no charge that partially free and all the people have to do is they go to it's called time to rise like
So it's time to
change a light blanket time to rise some it.com. Yeah, January 25th to 27th and it's free. It's
free for anybody wants to go and they can bring their friends or family. They do it from the house and I've traveled and go to the office and do with people around them. It's not so it's really amazing the results. We have had people change their business change our relationship get off drugs. I'll tell you one fun example, though two years ago. There's this guy that was seven and thirty five pounds. He never would have made it to a seminar. He saw was free. He's been in bed his brother died. He got addicted to painkillers. Oh, yeah, and then he
He just blew up and then he's now had they told me I have to be on Archie and mass arrests his life. He couldn't get out of bed CPAP machine mean. Yeah. Well, it wasn't CPAP is pure ongoing oxygen. That's nice. And then secondly, he couldn't go to bed to go to the bathroom. You have to be in bed. He was naked in bed for five years and some are 30 pounds. So he watches and I run them up on screen. I didn't know he's there he raised his hand digitally. So I raised up and asking questions so he got so inspired by this. Yeah. He took this little like like clothes hanger bar and just
started doing these little exercises and over 90 days. I told him I said you get out of bed make it the restroom you get out of the restroom and drive a car again, which had done in seven years. I've been seven years and I said, I'll fly you to my Unleash the Power Within event for four days you walk on fire with me and you will really shift your life. Right? He's lost 320 pounds. He three months later was out of the bed for the first time. He drove a car he fell in love with this girl. He came to that walked on fire and I was like in our we have a network of people because once
This event there's people all over the world you become friends with and he's like the Superstar of all these people because they can't believe the changes he's made and all happened because he never would have come to an event but because he could do it from home in his bed and she could do
that. It can reach him. Yeah. What's something like I noticed like there's been times in my past where it's like, I think I didn't want to change because I wanted to keep having an excuse right? Like I remember even was smoking. I remember it was like part of me didn't want to stop there was a part of me. I realized that did it.
On to stop smoking because I knew if I stopped I wouldn't and it wasn't like a it was kind of a subconscious part of me. But I knew if I stopped I would I wouldn't have something to blame my inefficiency on or my what I just wouldn't have something to blame. It's like it gave me something to blame. Does that make any sense
does because everything we do even things that seem stupid or derogatory we do to meet some needs. There's only six needs people have we have a need for Comfort or certainty?
We have a need for variety. We have a need to feel significant unique special important. Everybody has that need have a need to feel connection and love we have need to grow and need to contribute Beyond ourselves. It was just Comfort. I think yeah, it's the comfort and the certainty what you know, but there is a fear that everybody has to fears all human beings at some moment feel that they're not enough and to feel like you're not enough for someone who's love you crave makes a person crazy
ins like for someone who's glad I didn't hear that right
somebody whose love you crave the average person you don't care. But if it's somebody's love you really want.
What? Oh, yeah. So if you feel like you're not enough, then you feel like you won't be loved to be worthless and unloved is like psychological death. So people drug themselves eat they do anything not to feel that. Well, what are your choices on changing that? Well, you could take on a new project do the podcast build a business do something but you have to decrease the do that and risks you could look like a failure you could fail which might look like you're worthless might look like you're not worthy of love. So subconsciously we come up with these ways to adapt so smoking a cigarette comfort you because
Take that big slow breath in and blow it out. Nice and slow. It changes the tempo in your body completely you go from stress to come on Wild West you can do it at the same shit without the cigarette. Yeah, but it but once you're addicted and it becomes the go-to some people stop smoking then they overeat because overeating puts all the blood in your stomach and you start to breathe slowly again and feel things and you'll let go so you can get certainty and comfort by those ways. Are you can do it by working out and developing the sense of strength.
It makes you certain or you can do the same thing day after day. There's so many ways. There's positive ways and negative ways. But we also need uncertainty. We need variety if you if every day, you know, what's going to happen how it's going to happen you get bored out of your mind. So yeah, but if you have so much variety, you don't know what's going to happen people freak out so these needs bounce up against each other. And so when people do a behavior like smoking smoking will give you comfort certainty smoking will give you and some people's case variety because you're stressed out. Now you change your state a feels difference called variety.
Give you significance if you think it's cool, although today. It's a lot harder to do that because most people think you're an idiot. We put you in a separate room by yourself. They think you are. Yeah, so but it used to be I'm cool if I smoke and some people say you can't make me not smoke. I'm significant right for some people to way to connect with other people who smoke right? So when you meet one of those needs you like it and you meet to you really like we meet three you get addicted and you get addicted to positive things. You can addicted exercise you get addicted to working out you can Addicted to You Know growing your business.
Business you everyone gets addicted to something if it meets a bunch of your needs. It's amazing and in a relationship if a person is certain that you love them and there's always a surprise they's all I know they love me and we have so many surprises. We have so much Variety in our life and I feel like the most important person significant and I feel so much love them or going contributing. I'm leaving. Nobody says that because when your needs are met people stay like whenever I work with couples who were gonna hire thousands of couples of the year,
And they always say one of them always say I gave him or her everything everything except what they needed. If you game what they needed, they wouldn't be leaving.
You think we're afraid to say what we need though to or do you think we even know what we need?
Sometimes those people don't you're absolutely right. Most people normally don't say up and most people don't even know it. They're not even honest with themselves yet, right? How do we get that?
Because it almost seems like you're just wandering around in the dark. If you don't even know that they there's wiring in the walls, you know, kind
of well, there's there's
Part of your brain called the reticular activating system big words that scientists usually called the RAS. It determines what you notice. So there are millions of things. You can focus on Even In This Moment the blood rushing to hear the heartbeat your clothing touching your skin, but you're not thinking about that, right? You delete all that you focus on a small number of things the res notices what you are going to focus on. So if you get clear on what you want to say, okay, and by the way when you say relationship you I don't know what I want. I go great describe the relationship from hell. What do you don't want tell me?
You know, I don't want a person like this and want to be like that and want to be and that creates energy when they're done with a whole list. Then I go right the opposite. You have the relationship from heaven or I don't know what I want a career a job right anything. You don't want who do not want to work with what kind of working out want to do people get their energy going with that. They're okay, right the opposite you got the job from heaven. So once you know what it is that you really really want now, all you got to do is figure out okay, what's gotten in the way? What what do I need to shift? How can I meet my needs in a better way but that's why we do events like this because telling
Go do that in their normal environment is difficult. But when you go into Total Focus, it's like starts a earlier. If you want to learn a language and you went to high school you did you take a language foreign language. I speak a little
Spanish one and Spanish. I think 2000
and you what it was and you speak Spanish. Well now
now our guide even see our guy was like he got busted for fraud or something, but I don't know what we learned. Yeah, but I was in there for I was in there. Yeah, I was in there.
But the reason you don't want to call it was because it was a little bit at a time the brain doesn't learn that way the brain learns Best Buy.
Immersion if I said you had the money in the time I'm not going to teach you Italian. I'm going to drop you in Rome and I'm gonna pick you up in 90 days with no teacher. Oh you 90 days later. You're speaking Italian because you're in it 24 hours day, seeing it film experiencing it. That's how I teach that's why do 12 hours for four
days. That's right. Yeah. That's why in it's in it's an intense thing or it's a immersion. Yeah. That's right last that's why at last ah, wow, man. Yeah. It's pretty impressive. It's so I think it's just neat to see that even just using your like seminar as
Example that that it takes immersion. It takes real some real commitment. I mean even if people are coming for six days or even if people are going to show up for long days on Zoom for four days and roads, like whatever it is, it takes some real commitment from ourselves to be able to do those things.
So you get a lot of people get dragged there by somebody and they're like, I'm gonna die out here at the first break and I remember I had a friend of mine is now friend of mine wasn't before but he came with a client friend of mine who was an AFL player. This guy's a billionaire and he sat down
He saw people clapping and moving and stuff because we moved the body. It's not a rah-rah session. It's the change of biochemistry is a science by right because I'm not going to do this. I'm a billionaire. I don't do this crap, right and like 30 minutes later. He's jumping here. This is the greatest experience of my life, you know, so sometimes you have to get in the experience to know what it is and then when you're in it, and it's so enjoyable because change doesn't have to be painful. It can be enjoyable. I mean, you don't know what to do and just do a little bit at a time but hard to get a real change, but when you go for full immersion
That's what happens. But you know, I still write books and do audios and things like that because you need immersion and then you need some space repetition need to feed the mind in a regular basis. So I like have three things I go. I want to feed my mind every day in either read or an audio for 20-30 minutes. So I'm constantly growing in some way. I want to do immersion. Even I do this 23 times a year. I'll go places harder to do now because of who I am, but I'll go in the back of the room. I'll get somebody one-on-one to coach me about something I did this brain training for example is like four days and nights a bit of these electrodes on your brain to teach you how to go and what
Alpha Brain the part of your brain where happiness is a lot easier, right? So I remember it's like 12 hours a day. It was freezing cold newest dark room. And you hear these sounds based on your brains working. You have to retrain your brain. It was held high like, who do I got to kill to get out of this know me? I'm going to put myself in this thing, huh? But at the end of four days so
cashew it sound like you were an
angry one time don't gotta like that. But after four day, did you entertain a quite a little bit everything you did that's really cool of you to do
that crazy. I can't
Can't believe that tell me about that. Well, I'll tell you about it. So first of all, they have a golf course down there, which I didn't even think you don't think like because they're in the trailer. It's a tropical area, right? So these people they're down there. It's a beautiful area. So you go down. I remember the flight we went on to go down. There you go. They have to have to fly in like this crazy pattern, I guess in case like somebody's shooting at you like you have to be able to evade it. So you go in this crazy shape and then you see like out of the darkness is just like this. It looks like a big diamond ring like lit up.
Although the outlines of the whole base, you know, and so we went there there's all these big lizards not a lot of ladies bring your own lady, you know or some are bring, you know, bring a buddy who's willing to you know, say he's a lady, you know, but there's some yeah because there's not I think there was I think seven women down there. There's like 11:00 soldiers down there though.
Seven women. Yeah, that's a brutal environment,
but they are look I'll tell you this the first day you might be like, I don't think she's my type by the
Fourth day, you're like that is damn
Hillary closer. You get to come home. Yeah.
Yeah. Well the for I mean there's a wedding ring shop there and it is I mean, this is something with me. They're all different. Yes. Yeah, it looks like that collection you have right there, but it is it that that part is pretty remarkable. Oh, I just the beach is they have down there real beautiful. You don't hear anything about him though, because they're the ones on the military base. So did you go to entertain the soldiers and soldiers?
Yeah, we got to see some of the troop areas and we got to do like some volleyball with some of the prisoners or whatever but some of the prisoners that made him wear like they could even see while they're doing the volleyball. It was bizarre. But yeah, we got to play volleyball volleyball. You can't see out of that's yeah. That's a that's the rules they made for him. But yeah, that might be I don't know from a torture. Yeah, maybe I don't know what their the actors or the law is, but I'm not hopefully they prevented. Yeah, that shouldn't be allowed. It was semi fun, I guess.
But it was yeah, but um, what was it like yeah, that was amazing man just to be able to be down there, you know is that's why I just to be able to go do comedy their debut to
go into the brighten people's Spirits are they less
fun? We got to do a bunch. We got to go to go to a lot of the forward operating bases during like the not Kuwait, but maybe Iraq like after that like Bahrain,
so you the modern day Bob
Hope with a little more color. We went out there dude. I think you may call me Bobby hopeless, but
We still show up. You know, dude I met it girl. Yeah one time. I mean I got to make out with a girl in a Black Hawk
helicopter has only one but haven't made out really well when I was a helicopter pilot.
Either me or her wear that hands
you sure it was her
whatever you got to do man. It's the troops, you know, that's all don't ask don't
ask.
The old I think that's what they're doing now. Um, but no
one knows I mentioned that to you though is it was worth it? Because the in those four days, I've rewired my brain to have a different level
of Happiness. So you believe that you you know, this you've done it so many times that that is the key. That's the thing. It's like you exclude it out. These other things of like this is fool's gold. This is fool's gold. This is fools open through plenty of fools gold,
right? That's how you get to the good stuff. Right? That's what I'm saying. But if you give up if you give up because something's bullshit most of it's bullshit, but then you find
Those gems that really work and we found the genes work, then you can use them for the rest your life and then you share them with other people because you can see it really works. Yeah, and then, you know, then you get the science behind it. But in the past I've just got people to results who that is the science, right, but it's nice to have science justifying or being able to show people how powerful it is how effective it is, but you know, there's in the Journal of Psychiatry last year and all the people thought this is going to spread like crazy not one phone call because they're still selling ssris right? It's on the same people come to me. They have always come to me, but
But nobody from the psychological community on major scale and they just a big conference and share the results again and people are fascinated. And this is came up mask
questions at this you much money in the end.
They're all just even money is just habits. This is how they do their business. It's a business right for those
people. So what do you say to somebody like me then or I mean, sorry, I'm sitting here. So also met but yeah, like who's cuz there's ways like, I know once I write when I weaned off of my medicine right? I got the talked. I actually didn't talk to my doctor, but I've gotten off so many times over the years.
I felt like I knew what I was doing. I did let my close friends know. Hey, I'm all I'm getting off my medicine. Let me know if you're using just Lexapro. I've been taken right I said let me know if anything seems strange or whatever, you know, but then I saw a strange unusual. Yeah. Yeah, dude. I'm just like masturbating at the house there. Yeah, that's
natural. That's yeah, that's normal behavior. Right? But
if I'm Pet shopping, you know, that's a you need to call
so
In Surah cause I'm looking at a dog. Can you fetch
yes getting weird but what I'm saying is yes so dirty, but I started running right? I knew I said, that's great. My biggest thing is I don't want to lose this bad this this opportunity to see how I'm feeling because I'm not doing my part of taking care of
myself. You know, I have so much respect for you doing that so hard to do, but you did the right thing, which is what I teach you got to replace it with something you don't stop doing something replaced.
Nothing else, but we replacing it with actually changes your biochemistry. And I don't want to remind you guys that are like it dude your
neck with somebody yesterday. We got some damn Brooke Shoes together.
Well, that's a good first step. Yeah later. You're right, but you get the runner's high and it's a good eye for you and you make it so it's like it's not about stopping what you're doing. It's about starting something else. That's more fulfilling like running. What needs does it mean? Does it make you feel comfortable afterwards you feel certain you're going to feel good. When you run hundred percent you have variety when you run is like a totally different.
In
state. Yes, another go around the track this way some of the go around the track this way.
Okay. And do you have sense of significance? Like shit? I'm really changing. I'm improving I'm becoming more
some guy the other day like this kind of tough guy was like man, you've been out there for a while.
That's cool. I feel good good. Yeah and you feel more connected yourself or God when you're running or the universe or nature or
anything like that? Yeah feel like I'm able to have some Contour like my brain will have conversations that maybe I've been meaning to have or whatever they just kind of show up while I'm running.
Do you feel like you're growing by doing this running I getting better.
Yeah, I feel like it's not going to hurt me. That's for sure.
And there may be some form of contribution that will come out of it because because you feel so much better you be able to give more so you mean at least four or five of your needs by running? Yeah versus the drugs made you feel certain they make you feel variety.
No, that was the biggest problems boring. Danny feelings.
It's dead. They make you feel significant. No, no and they make you feel connected.
No, no, they make you feel like you're growing
now contributing to
others.
Now so it meant one need but when you get in the habit of it and you're numb it's hard to shift. So it's the only reason people shift is they hit a threshold. I'll give you the chemistry of transformation. You see how it works for you. Okay, like there's five elements that when they're there people transform. So the first one that usually happens is satiation satiation means there's nothing wrong, but you be doing the same thing over and over and over again after a while if your favorite meal was steak and lobster and you have it every day three times a day. There's gonna be a point where you go like there's nothing wrong with taking
Webster but man, I'm satiated right and that makes you look around what might I might do different but it doesn't usually make you change. It just opens your mind to change then you need the second element and that is dissatisfaction. Now, it's not just your doing it and it's not as good now you're doing it and it doesn't feel good. And you start to feel that in the relationship side just like this. I don't want to feel this way. Then that's still not enough that makes you look more for a change. That's the second piece of chemistry. The third piece of chemistry is now you hit a threshold fresh.
Looks like you're in a relationship like way too long, you know. Oh, yeah,
you knew was wrong and apologize to do a couple of women. Yeah, but he
said I know it was wrong, you know, it wasn't serving them or serving you but you stayed because it was certain it was hard to change. Well what if I'm alone there's a
free say certain things. Yeah,
but if you got to the point where the way you stay as you go it'll get better. It was better in the past or you jump to the Future and say it's better but there's a day we had a threshold ago. It's been painful in the past.
It's painful today is people forever. I'm half out of here, right? That's when people start to change when you hit a threshold you get the fourth piece get an Insight in the inside is what's really true and usually figure it out. It's not my partner. It's not my job. It's me what's going on in me and you make a distinction and that creates an opening like there's a chance to change your life in that moment. You have that when you were here and you couldn't feel anything with this girl without dissatisfaction. You've been she got to a threshold. You finally said wait a second. These drugs are just making mean. Um, I
Got you some and you had to jump through the opening because you didn't know what's on the other side. There's uncertainty a lot of people go through all that and they get to the opening and only stays open for a few moments. If you don't do something with the Insight of closes you start all over again, you got to go through all the time period to getting satiated getting dissatisfied Again by hitting a threshold and some people just never jump through the hole so I used to kick people through the opening. Yeah. Yeah. I seen a couple of videos every doesn't like whoa, so but that is all right now would I do more is
I bring him the opening over and over and get them to jump through so they get the muscle because otherwise it might last a year or two. It's like a last forever. If you do it you got a chance to make lasting for a long time, but you went to that chemistry, but very few people do yeah, you got to satisfied
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the last website you'll ever need again visit modify mod i ph why.com the0 for 50% off the last website. You'll ever need one thing that I think keeps audible from progress and life and stuff is like shame. You know, how is how is shame? It's almost hard to not find first of all people would say you're ashamed of yourself and I could I could say that. Yeah, I'm a
I came to myself but it's really a feeling you have to really and it's so like it's like a it's like a it's so vague kind of if that makes any sense, but it's feels like like one of the biggest sicknesses of our
being it shame is one of the most negative emotions because what it does is it shrinks everything in you and it puts you in such a Negative state that your energy drops. So think of this way well, your energy is really low you do very little to change things. Everything seems impossible.
Don't respond other people the same level when you're super high energy, you've done whatever takes your either excited about your future your present or you're working on yourself or you're working out like running and you're that high energy same problem and happen. You can laugh at a crack a joke at it. Yeah, and it's easy, right? So your energy level with certain emotions increase and other emotions goes to the floor and when you beat yourself up or you have shame or anything like that your energy goes down and then it's even harder to change which includes more shame. See I said, I was going to change I didn't change. What's wrong worse. What's wrong with me? Why can't I do this?
And then you start building up a story. That is something wrong with you want to try to explain to people there's nothing wrong with you. You're not broken. You don't need to be fixed. I'm not here to be your Guru. What you need is there's some patterns some habits and the way you use your mind and your body if we change those habits, you'll have a different experience. That's all it is. But being ashamed will keep you away from that because it will be the energy Stone negatively in your body and your so wiped out that it's like it's impossible right? And then when you're in a shame you come up all of these negative beliefs about yourself and what
you believe something. What do you believe it's true you believe or not is true because what do you when you believe something is true you'll find evidence for it. Yeah, like I'll give you a little test look around this room right now and notice everything you can see that's brown. Okay, everything you can find some tests. I'll call around both sides you inning see that's brown people at home. Look at that in your own room where you see is brown it close your eyes. Okay, tell me everything you just saw that was red now. Obviously, you saw a lot more Brown didn't you? Yeah, cause you're looking for it. Open your eyes Now look for red. Look for ready.
We can find read any place you can find red. Okay? Okay, fine more red this time. I'll come
as looking for red. That's
right. Once you develop a belief you find what supports it. So watch this you will find stuff that's not even there in order to be successful. I bet you saw some Bay shit called it brown just to feel successful. Did you anything? I bet you could also some things burgundy and called him bread just so you can feel successful
acted in some of those now and
later sued saying if you think you're screwed up your messed-up you're going to find and you're going to color.
If that way if you think someone else is a jerk you're going to if you think they're your friend and they have a bad day and a bad behavior while they're having a bad day. If you think you're a bad person then it's always going to be that what we got. First of all you
said of that if you think
what do you think it's true with you? Because not it's going to be true for you. In other words. Whatever you believe is self-evident you reinforce what you believe you found what you were looking for. So you got to train yourself to look for something different. That's why I do priming and that's why I do immersion because after four or five days of thinking differently seeing differently.
To think differently different beliefs different life. Yeah different experience. But if you do it for a few minutes kind of hard to do, so that's why I still do events because immersion has so much power. But some people do it through an audio. They listen to like an audio 30 minutes a day every day and they develop a new set of habits or they do it by exercising or they do a reading a book and then they use it right away. So there's lots of ways to get there but immersions the fastest way it is
and you and that's the fastest method you use it for yourself to course. Yeah. It's like going back class. Why
am I still doing?
That's like this you got to keep growing and every time you make a new insight. It's tax on all the other good things. You can stack the - me overwhelmed or you can stack the positive and feel this tremendous sense of momentum. And that's the other secret momentum. You're getting momentum right now. It sounds like momentum is like you've ever watched a team and they're getting a butt kicked and then somebody suddenly does something magical. They steal the ball. They do something and boom it's creates a spark and then the other team takes over right momentum shifts everything and momentum comes by.
In the right thing over and over and after a while it becomes what you expect to do or another one is certainty, you know, I work a lot of great athletes those rings are from all that's from you know, I own some teams like the ofc football club and the Golden State Warriors on a piece of them the Dodgers on a piece of them, but I've also coached them all. So those are all national championship rings that I've got. So I'm really proud of those rings that are representation of what I was able to build by working with these people, but we look at the people that are the best of the best they have certainty if you see Steph Curry's
In order for the Warriors, he makes those three three point shots. I'm almost half half court, right? He releases the ball. He doesn't wait to go through turns around and just like he already knows it's in like how does he do that? He's a genius well true. But where did the genius come from? He's been shooting 500 shots a day every single day 7 days a week for his entire adult life and most of his teens. I'll think about that. He's been in the NBA 15 years. He's the greatest three-point shooter in the history of the world he made
Be something shots now three-point shots. No one even close watch this.
500 shots a day that's 14th 1,000 shots a month. That's 168,000 shots a year that's over 15 years just as professional career the law to point 5 2 million shots taken in practice so that he could make 3,300 to be the greatest in history. So people get rewarded in public for what they practice in private. Yeah,
sometimes I have a tough time feel I'm proud of myself. Do you know what that you know, and I think I've had other people calling our our show that have
Talked about that. You know, what do you think it is? I don't know. I feel like I almost feel like it's just that there's a disconnect like it doesn't even land on me or I feel like maybe if I feel like I'm proud of myself, like if I actually feel proud of myself it'll go against some script that I've always had written or some
Some thing that was always written inside of me, you know, it's like it it's almost like it wouldn't if I wrote on the wall and myself I'm proud of you. It wouldn't even fucking show up on the wall.
Well motion. Would you feel if you saw
that like what emotion when I feel if I saw
what I'm proud of myself would you go bullshit? Would you send me pissed off by it? Would you be annoyed with you? Just now? I think I feel ashamed of myself
for even thinking it that's interesting and It
produced an emotion and you just now with you when you just thought about I saw that flashing your eyes and just a little bit of water. We had a fluid. Oh, yeah.
Dude, fuck we Crown here every week. Sorry. Yeah, beautiful now, it's okay. But yeah, we don't have any we don't have any Shame about
that. You shouldn't but I'm set liquid leaving your body in a public place. As long as the your eyes not
as don't ask don't ask
but my point is there's a real anchor for you there. So he let me explain it to you. Everybody has what I call an emotional home. Yeah, you ever watch like place here and let's say, you know whether Cyclone happens every two or three years and wipes out everything.
Everything or tornado comes through. Yeah, you see these poor people all their stuffs all over the ground and they're picking it up and you could have a Heart of Stone not to feel they rebuild two years again happens again, Tuesday happen again. Some party eventually goes why don't you move, you know, it's like why don't you do a
lot of Vietnam's like that is floods New Orleans is like to add it slowly.
So here's why don't they move because it's home. It's what they know. We have an emotional home. We have certain emotions that built up in your Youth and I had forefathers that a mother it was pretty intense.
And I had a lot of emotions that came out of that experience if I didn't reprogram myself, I wouldn't be sitting here with you today because my emotional home was not good at feelings. It's what I was used to so even though didn't feel good you go there because it's what you know, yeah comfortable.
So it almost like I was deserting myself if I felt good about myself. That's just crazy. I almost feel like I was leaving
I don't know. Yeah, it's almost like I knew those films
finish that thought. I'm believing.
What what's almost like I feel like I know those feelings of not feeling good about myself. So well that I would be I don't want to leave them alone because we always had each other and it was like if I leave them, you know, if you ever have you ever had a friend even my just so I won't I don't know. Does that make sense? Yeah, it does you won't what if I leave them out as be letting them down and they're not even they're not even.
But there are two part of me some part of me inside of me. I can't even access their like his brothers.
That's right there your home. Yeah. And by the way, I really appreciate you being so vulnerable because people watching they're seeing that allow them to be vulnerable because you're a role model that it's because you're funny as shit, but to be able to be that vulnerable beautiful, but let me just tell you something.
Those are not your friends. Yeah, you know and you're not going to abandon those parts of yourself. You're going to find these other parts yourself that need to be in charge. It's not to say that you can't have negative emotions or fears or feelings. But the ones that don't support you you got to break that pattern in the way you break. The pattern first is you start to see you get a new experience. If I get you an experience where you feel like you actually felt proud of yourself without those feelings, and there was no sense of loss.
And I did that with you for days and days. You'll never go back. Wow. Did your brain will go what the f I'm not going back to that bullshit. Those were my friend and be like, hey, you know, it's like having a friend that beats the shit out of you every single day and I was like, I'm letting them down if I'm going to beat the shit out of me right now. It's like, oh no, I gotta be there for him because I got to be there so you can beat the shit out of him. That's pretty much better time.
Here we go again.
And so then what happens now is the reason you went for the antidepressants is it's so overwhelming that
Humming at least feels less. I'd rather see you cry and feel the pain even I want you feel pain as a
brother, you know, I'm grateful to feel it. I want it out of my sails, right? Yeah,
but the next step for you is drawn A Line in the Sand of how you really want to feel so I'll have people in the bed right down. I give me like a minute ago. I line then a middle. I dunno left side all the positive emotions you feel in an average week not once a year or not once a month and once you regularly feel whatever Good
Feeling average emotions in a pause and a positive way
because I'm so what are some ones you feel in a
week and a week feels at least.
Once a week, okay any emotion or positive start with the Positive the most hopeful? Okay thankful. Yeah. I'm loving. Yeah and maybe some pride good
and so so the price the pride of sneaking in and that's not ego Pride. That's pride of like you're growing.
Well, I'm learning about proud. I mean, it's like I said, it's really hard for me to feel proud of
myself, you know, so stop saying that okay because every time you say that your rewiring it back into your body over and over it's a
It's like there's an old phrase that says tolai big enough haul I big enough loud enough and long enough sooner or later people believe he who said that
Hitler. I think it's a fauci.
It will seem different than I am. So yeah, we hear
what we're saying, but
the conversation you said with yourself. You've got how many times do you think you've said that said why you know, I'm it's hard for me. I
not
Hey, I say it a lot of yeah, it's because I think I'm yeah, it's like having a new story for myself out of you know, part of me is still there's a heavy bid to buy a whole new story having a new story even having six some success in my life. It's almost like some of it feels embarrassing, you know,
and some people feel like, you know, the word people uses impostor syndrome. It's all bullshit. It's just fear that you're not enough. We all have that fear brother. I feel that times. I don't feel much now, but I'm 63 years old and I've done a shitload of things for 40 years, you know, you've got enough pattern built up new pattern.
It's like a muscle, you know, everybody's got the muscle if you use it it grows. If you don't use it, you lose it, right. It doesn't ever disappear though. It just looks like it's not there. But if you demand you push it beyond what it's comfortable with and that's what you're doing right now. You're pushing beyond your comfort you were settling for Comfort to try to survive. Now. You're like f that I want more out of this life, you know, I'm not going to settle for that shit, but then you keep telling yourself the old story. So change your story change your life. It sounds overly simplistic, but it is
true. I love it. I appreciate you saying
Yeah, yeah. Yeah, I think a lot of this chat has been about that
and it but look at the positive emotions you wrote down. So are you just told me verbally, right? So you're hopeful you have are you playful or funny or what would be your term around that party because I didn't hear that part of you there.
No, I feel like that part of me became such my work that I haven't had as much free time to be that
as I would like and your own. Okay, cool. Well, so those deposits what are the negatives you feel in an average week at least once a week not once a month once a year whether an egg emotions. You
feel ugly. Okay, I feel
Incapable angry and I feel disappointing.
Okay. So which of those emotions is most powerful for you? How's it goin stir the
- list?
The negative list is more
powerful. That's true for most people watch this. What's an emotion that if it became the dominant emotion your life one or two and would get rid of those negatives like they would have any power over you.
Oh being emotional state would it be like courage or to be playfulness or to be lets say Joy or would it be great if you've already got gratitude more gratitude, what be an emotion that's so strong and we get rid of the
disappointment. They love, you know,
there you go. And that's your core brother. I didn't hear you say that on the first one. That's all you really want is probably why you do this podcast by why make people laugh me too. By the way, the whole reason I do. What I do is I love people. I love to see people happy because I was so unhappy myself and I got out of it. So
So grateful, it's like I don't it's like, you know, I feed you know hundred million people a year 100 million meals. I do your charity and I've done a billion meals in the last year's
great. I did that's always helpful. That's what McDonald's did in it, and it was free. They're pretty cheap in the down but Hank
dude, but I did it not because I'm a good person. I did it because I grew up and I had no money and no food was 11. Somebody came and found us on Thanksgiving. I was like that made me believe strangers care strangers care about me and I care about strangers and so I fell in love with people. I want to make people
Fulfill happy and I know what it feels like not food. I know what it feels like to be absolutely depressed and miserable and saying do I even need to stick around in this life? Right? So I don't want anybody else to feel that so it drove me to find answers not just for me once I found it for me. I wanted to help as many people as I can why don't want to do it because I love love because when you help people that much, I mean I have so much love. My life is your niggas like it stopped on the street every day and people don't come up and say oh I like your show or something. Come on gonna change my life on my God. I love you. Tony Robbins, and I always say no I didn't do it you did it, but I'm glad I helped but I love the love.
Comes from it. So we all really want love but we're afraid we're not enough and you my friend you are growing like a weed right now because you're doing things most people never get out of and I'm not blowing smoke. Um, not a
bullshit. I don't feel I don't feel that and I appreciate you saying it. Yeah the truth. It's been
real but you got it. You got to notice your progress and you got you got to stack the good and then you got to stop the old story in the minute. You start to say that phrase bullshit. That's an old story. It's not true anymore.
Yeah, I think a part of me is afraid that I'm Gonna Leave a part of me. Like I'm if I'm you know,
Know if I even if I be successful, so let's investigate that for a sec. I'll be successful. I'm going to leave a part of me behind you.
Well when you're after right now because you already successful God. I don't know how many millions of people I'm sure that watch your podcast you make people laugh all over the world and people that are on the rarest sometimes but all those emotions are old habits. They're just habits. So I understand that and by the way when you feel embarrassed or you feel these negative emotions, yeah.
It also makes you feel for yourself for a little bit. So that's the other part you might be afraid of like some people I take care of me about that. Well, like for some I don't know this is you but some people are so busy trying to get rails happy all the time. They don't take care of themselves unless it's a big-ass problem. And then for the first time even it's a - feel at least I'm feeling for my some fun feeling for me. And that might be what you're afraid of losing. Let's try it for a second here. What if I told you you could go back and feel like shit as much as you want and I'll never stop but you don't have to have that be
predominant emotion of your life
that you this need to beat yourself up or be ashamed or not be too happy that it's an old story that got wired a long time ago and has nothing to do with who you really are. But when you keep telling yourself, it's like my friend now you take care of him lose a part of myself. No, you'll never lose that part. There's a part of me that would be a victim very easily. I was beat as a child. My mom was a beautiful woman. I'm not denigrating her when she put but you but you but alcohol together with prescription drugs.
She was crazy and I was 51 in high school believe it or not. I'm 67 now John people are different. I tell people the difference is personal growth, right? I had a tumor in my brain that made me grow but I am gonna die. She would slam my head against that she'd will put liquid soap down my throat cause she said I was lying and I wasn't lying and when the person you love most is trying to hurt you you do a number on your head, but I look back now and fortunately I didn't let that stop me and I didn't settle for that. I struggled for a long time. I look back on it. I can honestly tell you.
If she was the mother, I'd hope she been like if I was well-fed you really think I'd be trying to feed a billion five not a billion people and I'm trying to feed 100 billion people. You think I would be spending my time doing that if I was well-fed kid. I don't think so. If she had been a mother I want I want to become the man. I'm proud to be. Yeah. So those emotions are not you they were a part of your past. They were a pattern. It's a pattern of what you do with your body and breathe but it meets some of your needs to feel feel yourself or feel sorry for yourself or feel sad right you follow me like a self pity thing.
NG it little bit but what you're really wanting is not self pity you're wanting self-love. You just haven't learned how to give it to yourself my way of doing that is gratitude because when you're grateful love
flows naturally, is that a common pattern that sometimes because I noticed over like a cup about two years ago. I noticed that I one of my biggest addiction sometimes with self-pity. I didn't realize it I thought I was helping myself by like focusing on myself, but really I've been to I was feeling too pitiful. Yeah. I didn't it was hot. It was man it was I realized my alcohol with self-pity.
Anytime I'm also also
alcohol is a depressant. So what's going to do is load. It feels good in the moment, but then it lowers your energy and your blood sugar everything right a self-pity sale pity of same thing. Now your energy think about it self-pity if you're in self-pity right now zero to 10 10 in total High energies 0 has no energy. Where you in self-pity. Where would you put it? I'll Kill Ya, where are you when you're feeling
excited. Where's my energy to attend? Yeah my interview and I feel like side is like a
nine. Yeah. Which one do you want to be?
I'd rather be the nine. Yeah.
No, the fuck wants just do that. I know yeah, I think if I don't think you said a lot of it is pattern. I think that's the thing in a lot of people I think you don't notice when you're in self-pity man. I had no clue like I was still living a life and it was going well and it was going but there was just a lot of times I was drinking my own self-pity, you know, and and I'll feel like I do it a lot now but there's times Rock can fall back into
that you do just like if you do it's like, oh I'm going to self pity. You don't beat yourself up. It's got that whole pattern. I don't do that shit anymore. Let's get out in the best way to get out is go for your run.
Something physical or shift what you're doing or focus on doing something else someone you love any of those things will get you out of your mind because here's the biggest problem. All these words are using or just forms of suffering.
Pains part of life suffering you've heard as an option. It really has an option. What happens is when you focus on yourself, there's always suffering. There's three things will trigger yourself her. If you think three words lost less than ever if you think something you did cause you to lose or have less of or never have love or
respect or
free time or Financial Freedom or
anything. I think that's not one not think I feel that something that was something I did that made.
That way
yes, and by the way, some people do the opposite and some people do both they look at what other people did but the government did what this person did what some system did something outside themselves that makes them believe they've lost something or we'll never have something when you think lost less never about yourself the mind you're not your mind, right? Like it's like all the thoughts you ever thought want to kill this mother F ever
had that thought. Yeah, I don't do it, but I have to
thank you, but you just the key is you don't do it. I don't do it. You think that's your thought. Are you the first person have that thought?
Thought know how long do you think that thoughts been around?
I'll be since the Bible have that probably before yeah, maybe before yeah, if I told you a hundred years ago or Cain killed Abel in the Bible That's why I said there. Yeah, that's good. But yeah, and also there was definitely people killing each but for that so
but but check this out. Think about this for a second that thought is not your thought your being used by that thought if I said a hundred years ago, there's going to be a little box in your pocket and you can pull it out you'll be able to touch it and see people on the other side of the Earth because there's
Visible waves going around the earth and it's going to come in your box you go read between the lines asshole right not going to happen. But think about or we're gonna fly to the moon and back they used to call the people who said that lunatics that's where the term comes from people thought we could go to the Moon. Well, we've been to the moon and you now have a phone that does those things. Well thoughts also have been around forever and think of your body is like Cable One Channel and it brings down a signal of Comedy the channel. It's a Horror Picture another channel. It's F and drama.
Another channel it's adventure. And so when you drop your body on this you get a different Channel and what you see feel and tap into then if you're like this or whatever your state is or giggling or laughing and shit, then you get a different channel. So the pattern of how we use our body determines what part of the thoughts we tap into but the biggest thing is you're going to be pissed off or sad at least get a unique thought when you created don't just copy everybody else every other asshole that ever lived. You're just copying it change your body change your life change your story.
Your life so you've already begun it, huh? You've gone through the chemistry of being dissatisfied enough to say I'm not going to do the drugs. I'm going to start to run them all like in this feeling but then you get pulled back a little bit because it's new your old stuff, you know well and so you're going to just cut it off and again you could do that through emerging. I'd love to have you coming by him at one of my events and be my guest and just have your own experience, but regardless you can still do it on your own just by changing the Habit change the Habit you change it enough. It's like the more you go down a path the more gets wired. They
They did this at the UC Irvine. They took monkeys a tape for their fingers down and then they'd manually when they think of like this ten thousand times. Well now they untape the finger of the hands. And what is the monkey do? No kidding. Well, you're not a monkey but many people drive to work the same way every day get on the same subway and one day they're supposed to go a different direction get off of different off ramp, but their brain so used to it thinking off on the wrong off-ramp. Well, that's kind of what you're doing your get off on the off ramp up some old pattern. And so what you got to do is stop going down that patch on do it. Stop it stop.
So what they found by the way, you don't have to do 10,000 times imagine they found they could do it with 12 of these instead of 10,000 get the same wiring and the way they did it was they stimulate the pleasure center of the brain cells like ha ha ha ha ha and each time. They did it imagine instead of one thread of connection between neurons in the brain nerve cells in the brain one instead when there's joy there or excitement or pleasure you get a thousand of them so they could do 12 and get the result without emotion right get the same result.
Of 10,000 movements Rob. So we wire ourselves like you can can
so after a shoulder that you're saying. It's some people you don't even notice it though. That was amazing to me with four years. I didn't notice that's what I was doing. And that's the kind of
going right right. You not mask
I'm 43, right?
So, you know, most people when you're think of it this way 02:21 is like springtime. You don't have to figure anything out you learn you grow things occur, you might have problems and upsets. But you know, it's in his real life 22 24
To your kind of the soldier Society you go out and test what you've been like, I don't know if I believe this shit. I was told let me try this. You think by the way, you're Invincible. I'm the president had States a multi-billionaire have 100 relationship simultaneously and everyone's going to be happy but somewhere around 35 or 40, you know, 45 you start going, you know relationships hard. I'm not very good at this shit and I'm not a billionaire yet. Well, what's the deal here? And so then you have go on a journey the hero's journey, you're being called to go into the unknown and try new things and if you step into the unknown
You'll meet new mentors new people. You'll learn to slay the dragon. You'll become the hero in your own life. But ages basically 43 263. That's the reaping time of your life in the rookie year. This is when you're coming brother. That's the stage Life by the when people are the most happy. Yeah, right if they're healthy and the Very happiest is usually 64 to 84 if they're healthy and people can live to 100 and for all those people hundred twenty but each stage has different problems in different opportunities. So you're entering
Your power and it's showing up right you got large audience here your humors become more playful more refined. But now you're like I want more I want me to be happy look at you know, you know comedians that have killed themselves. I mean we can make a long list of people that made everybody happy except themselves when
you only have people take a Robin Williams Brody Stevens. Those are just a few. Yeah that and there could be a bigger less. I'm not a good at thinking of Lucy all those guys
further, right, you know, so if you think about it if you
You make everybody happy about yourself. I always tell people success without fulfillment is the ultimate failure. And so you're starting to go long. I want to be fulfilled to I don't want to be successful on the outside. I want I want this to be inside me and you're on the path brother the way you know, the path is you decide what you want and you've been going to decide I want more than what I had before Second Step you say. Okay, there's a gap between where I am or where I want to be what's getting in the way. Is it a fear? I need a face. Is it a habit?
Is it an emotion? What is it? Is it a skill and missing I need to get I don't know how to do this on someone's got to show me so I can get better. Once you face that you get a little plan together. You start taking action. Not a perfect plan and then you got to slay your dragons. You got to make the change you got to okay, so I'm not going to do the drugs anymore. Okay. I'm going to run instead and then you get momentum. Yeah, and you're starting to get momentum. So now the only puts the brakes on your momentum is those old emotional patterns, so you got to go that's not me. That's an old pattern after that.
You're going to do now and here's the other part though. As long as you focus on yourself you suffer see suffering comes from focusing on you. Wow, that's wise on a solution. That's why contribution is so valuable cuz we're doing something for others. You're not thinking about you unless you're trying to do it to get
something right A lot of people had to focus on themselves because it was a survival mechanism you too, so they didn't have a choice. That's right. So some people you don't even realize it your whole life. You might be focusing on yourself and you might think well, I'm selfish but some of that might be just old habits because you had to focus on yourself.
Of to make sure you were
okay. That's right. But then what happens is we don't update our software be like be like a using one of those old, you know digital or not even digital phones. You be like, what are you doing? You idiot? Yeah using a pencil. Yeah, I mean, what are you doing? But but you it's time to upgrade your software and that's what you're doing. You're upgrading your mental
software and there's some law. I think there's a there's a little bit of sense of loss with letting go of the old software because it felt like home
exactly right and it's like I'm old enough.
If I had one of the first portable phones was this Motorola phone University and it was like a buck a minute. It didn't charge for more than 20 minutes. The only just call the police to but I was so proud to have that phone now.
Why don't you think I meant staying and we call him was he in the
police? Yes, if you give this kind of like if you give if you've got a phone today, they'll give it to you for free is like you got a contract and you got everything on you got a hundred thousand songs you got access to everything. So why would you go back the old so I kind of
I said, okay. We'll go get yourself on those phones and go visit it go put it in some part of your house and go visit for a little while if you want to but after a while you get bored with it and you'll move into the new stuff and that's what's happening for you
bro. Yeah, once you have all been a something new. Yeah, once you make a change, it really does feel good. It's just hard to make it
sometimes but I'll tell you I'll tell you one more secret for changes to last it has to become your identity. Let me explain we all have a way of defining ourselves to ourselves. So for example, if you see Lance Armstrong right was the greatest biker of all time.
He gets told that he has cancer not just cancer cancer is lungs cancer in his brain and all you got in your testicles. Oh, by the way, I ride a bike for a living but I was going to die. His core belief is I always find the way so he's survived cancer. Most people don't he also found a way to win no matter what he broke the rules to do it not cost his brand and so forth, but the same thing that made him healthy actually got him into trouble in the biking side, but before use drugs, he was still unbelievable one of the best in the world and guess what?
Got there because of a belief so you have to have a new identities identities. I find the way made him healthy. So think of it this way if I set the thermostat in this room that I think you'll relate to this and say 68 degrees. Okay. All right, and that's a metaphor for your comfort zone your identity. This is you know, that's 68 degrees is how much not much money I want but why you know, what I'm used to 68 degrees is what I'm used to in a relationship and that's not what I want. But that's okay. That's pretty good. So what I know, you know, so think about it.
Comfort zone now if the temperature drops to 65-64 6259 all of a sudden the brain the computer goes. Hey, your 60 degree. Are we doing it? 59? I'm sure you've experienced like this is bullshit and I'm like boom suddenly the heaters kick on you got drive and you go deal with it you go lose the weight or you get off the drugs you do whatever it is. Here's the part that most people understand. Let's say you get back to where you were and now you get new momentum and you're doing better. You're going to 69 70 80 80 99
He ain't agrees also to bring girls. What the hell you doing up here your 68 degrees. You know 99 Greer first thing that happens is the heater stop and you stop growing and if that's not enough the air conditioners kick on you start to sabotage yourself to get back to where you believe you are so cigarettes if you used to smoke, right, so if I came to you today and I offer you a cigarette, what would you
say sir? It's a body or nobody and no sir.
No, sir. No sir. Nobody. Okay, you know so why
I don't want it. Yeah.
Why because I don't that make me happy anymore. Yeah,
most people have you been say what brand is it? Yeah you go. No and the reason why is you're no longer a smoker? It's not your identity. If you thought you're smoking you might go what brand is it? Well, maybe I'll have one, you know, whatever it is. Right? Like when people tell me, you know, I'm on day 4 of not drinking or not smoking. I'm go why are you counting so you can tell people how many days you last this time for you go back again. It's like when you change your identity, I'm not one of those.
Who's you're not going to do it anymore? So you are in the midst of transforming your identity? You're in the middle of it right now and you're doing a beautiful job. I'm not again blowing smoke. I'm not a bullshit. Thanks, man. No, but I hope you take it in because you need to own that on your own. Your own instincts had led you to a place of real progress. You're not there yet not we want to be anybody when you get wherever there is, it won't be enough you want to do more because we're all supposed to keep growing. That's what makes us
happy. Yeah, I want to keep learning. I think it's in it's important and I like learning.
About why people feel certain ways that is like and so does a lot of our listeners. It's important to a lot of us. Yes. Let me tell you why people feel like - we didn't want to get understanding nobody kind of explain to you. What's going on? Yeah while you're feeling so it gets confusing, you know, so like yeah, I don't know that I'm changing. I'm feeling sad about you know, just that. I don't know some of the
but let me give you let me give you and your viewers three things because what I spent decades
And it's good. I'm loving I got Decades of taking complex things and make them simple because the pressure complexity is the enemy of execution is too complex. You don't do it right
exact, but I'm just saying yeah, it's too so
let me give you three who you are. You can think about this for you and your viewers whatever you're feeling right now, whether you're pissed off or sad or frustrated or excited or passionate whatever it doesn't matter, there's only three things that made you feel that way three patterns. The first pattern is what you're doing with your body. So let me give an example if I said there's a depressed person behind curtain number one over there.
And I'll give a hundred thousand dollar donation your favorite charity. I bet you could describe him physically without seeing them depressed person where their
shoulders all the way down forward. Where's their head? Probably looking like probably be something like that.
It's right. I'll be talking louder
quiet.
It could be probably a little bit subdued. Maybe
that's right faster
slow. Mmm. Holly slow.
That's right. And when they're doing that think about why do you know that could you practice shit before we all have but if you take that same person I do this over and over again and you changed what we call their physiology the way they move the way they breathe you put their shoulders back. They breed different it literally changes their biochemistry if you change that as a habit you change the biochemistry on a regular basis better than a drug because you're not depend upon
The second thing that determines how you feel so
clear your own drug. That's right. You're the dealer and the user
exactly right? So if you're excited what somebody
like yeah, you're the more pumped
up. Yeah is your head up or down? Uh, yeah. We're your shoulders.
They are they're good. Yeah, they're loose. It's doing what they want. That's right the voice
monotone or does it have more variety to it
variety? That's
right. So you think about that? You're breathing more Fuller more shallow more full. That's right when you're depressed. It's more
a more shallow. Zephyr some occasional big ones to get you. Keep you down
there. That's right. Well, you let it all out and deflate right? Yeah. So we change your breathing we change your movement change your posture and your entire biochemistry will change that fast people have habits out.
Use like there's 37 muscles in your face. This is the largest area of unemployment in the country because people do the same facial expression over here and they feel the same feelings over and over again. You change the body you change it all now the second thing is change is what you focus on so example, I gave you if you're thinking about oh my God, they're not here. They're in a car accident. You're a worrier if you think I give a shit and they did it again. You're going to be pissed off. So whatever you focus on you feel even if it's not true. You will feel it.
And then the third one is the language you put to it because words change meaning. So if I said to you look during the break, we have some nutritious snacks audience goes we got some delicious snacks. Oh, yeah, interesting. Just one word change changes the biochemistry. It's not the words other people say to you. It's also the word you say to yourself. I change your biochemistry and it's not just words. There are certain phrases that change what you even perceive so, I don't know if you've ever had this when your kid, but I remember, you know, I finally get to sit down and have dinner.
And I was responsible for all of making that they're doing it all and then my mom or dad would say could you get the salt just I don't know this salt is and I'm not lying. I don't know the exact GPS location to salt and I don't know the saltiest then you know the softness the kitchen go get the song. I don't assaulted you go get the some fun. Oh my God. What am I saying? Man? I don't assault isn't over the salt is it's over on the second shelf. I open it. I wasn't really looking I do with the salt is it's not here. My dad walks by reaches right in front of my face and goes. What is this your have experienced like yeah. So here's the question did.
Or I see the song. No. Yes, they did. But your brain didn't allow you to perceive it because you hypnotized yourself I over and over again telling the lie to yourself. I do with the salt cinnamon salt this I don't want to turn you into a liar side. So it's called a scotoma a blind spot. So when you tell me if I don't want to lose those friends of mine from the past and make me feel like shit you do it over and over again. You can't even see the other option. That's why our language our focus and our physiology the three of them together control if you make a little change in your body feel a little change in how you feel.
But for example sound you did you like to sing when no one's around
not that much. I'm not a great
singer. I'm not either but when no one's around like in the car great songs like that sometimes yeah, so some people that most of us don't sing. Well, so what happens we're in the car we're seeing in we're rocking we're wrapping right you get this pot and stuff. Like you still don't look over a car next you somebody staring at you you pick up your cell phone act like you've been talking to somebody or some shit, right? But what's happened is it makes you feel good to sing because you're using parts of your body. You don't normally use they lift it.
Lifts you emotion. And so what happens is that's why even though you don't sound good people like to sing when no one's around when somebody's around and I want to sing because I want to be judged. Yeah, right so you can change your focus your language and your physiology if you change all three you make a radical change. So when we do like a seminar, I have the
firewalk the
fireworks just a metaphor for breaking through whatever stops you but when you get in front of 2,000 be burning hot coals, you have a state change like all day. You might have found really good and I like oh my god do I get together when I look at him go I could do it either if I talk like this about my shoulders like this I say,
In tall put your shoulders back scream. Yes. Yes cream. Yes, and yes. Yes, it's a go and then boom the person who couldn't go 10 seconds ago storms across the fire because what we do is based on the state rent and you can change your state or the way, you move my way you focus on and by the language you use change all three radically again, and again you change your life. Wow,
honey mint. Thank you so much for thinking about this stuff with this. I know that you have before you go. We only have a book that's coming out the Holy Grail, right? Yes. Yes. I can't we pivot to that 45 minutes ago.
Got to okay, so I know it's about finances right and it's about the disparity in the world kind of yeah. Well, I don't want
to I've written Three Financial. This is the third one of the trilogy the front final the trilogy. Okay. And the first one is money Master the game is most most read most successful Financial book of the last 23 years are really proud of it. Wow, but as time went by I wrote that book by interviewing 50 of the smartest Financial people in the world and saying how do I take this complex stuff make it so my billionaire clients love it, but the average person can really use it it showed you.
Go from nothing to where you want to be that I wrote a book called unshakable to pair people for 2020. I don't know it's going to be covid but I knew there was going to be a giant market change because because you can predict that it's going to come we don't know when but it's going to come and I want to people prepared and then now there's so many people unprepared for their financial future that they're in the hole. And so in order to get where you want to go you need compounding and will the tiny amount of money compounding you get wherever you want like right now if you start when you're really young your 19 you say you have no overhead.
I'd say 300 bucks a month and you put it, you know, let's say in stock market where it's an 8% return. You can go from 17 to 27 with very little money in right three thousand bucks a year roughly, but that money will grow over time to provide several million dollars if you stopped at 27 years old you started 28 and do it. You got to put money until you're 65 and you'll still have less money. That's how compounding works, right so it doesn't make a lot but if you could compound with a higher rate of return without taking too much.
Risk, because you take too much risk, you lose everything
and is that high rate of returns to so it feels like there's not as much it feels very risky. These days are feels like the stock market like it's just a front-facing thing to the public where that everything else is done behind the scenes. I think that's what a lot of stuff starts to feel
like well and there are some truth to that because there used to be eight thousand stocks. Now, there's only 3,600 and most of them like the Russell 2000, which is one of the you know, the young companies 40% of already been profitable we look at
What's called the S&P 500 the list of the top 500 companies in the stock market there that SP list those are the best ones there's about seven that are represent about eighty percent of the profits of what's going on there. Wow, so it's a very small number that has changed over time and we didn't use the people used to in order to protect themselves. If you went to financial planner, they'd say we'll put this much in stocks and this much in bonds because there's something called correlation or non correlation when things move in the same direction if you invest in both of them and they both
Go down. You got nothing. They both go up. It's nice, but when they go down this problem, so I met with this man ray dalio some of your viewers may have heard
him as dalio Ray.
Dalio. He's the greatest hedge fund investor in history. He manages almost 200 billion dollars in business. Wow, and I interviewed him 14 years ago and became good friends and I asked him a question one time. This guy is a genius. He literally manage the money for countries and he's got the greatest tracker like 2008 when everybody in the market went down one of the 38 percent, whatever the number I forget the exact number he was down 3%
And by the end of the year, he made nine percent. Good job running just brilliant God. So I asked her I said what is the most important investment principle that the average person or a billionaire would want to know what's made you so successful the most important principle and your name has he was Tony I spent 20 years to figure this out. He goes. I'm going to tell you the answer and he said it's called the Holy Grail, right? You know, it's the Holy Grail of investing is to find 11:52 Investments that are not correlated. So let me explain stop.
Sir designed to go up and then bonds where they are stocks go down bonds usually go up and in 2020, they both went down 2008. They both went down and so they don't that doesn't always work. And so you've got a lot of risk. He said the secret is if you can find 11:52 Investments that are not correlated you reduce your risk 80% Wow, and you Kris you're upside there is nothing on Earth. It's more important your you can try to pick the right stock or the right Bond of the right piece of real estate, but you're going to be wrong. You going to try and do the right time. You're going to be wrong. The one thing you can count on.
On is reducing the risk so that your right more
often is that that reduces the rest about the most by 8 is 12 investments into 12 are not correlated. What are some examples of displaces that things wouldn't be correlated. That's why I wrote this
book because I got it the average person thinks. Okay. Well, I got stocks and bonds and maybe a REITs are real estate. The problem is even reads often will go up and down with the stock market, right? So I've been around a while. I work with the best people in the world and you know, I've done well financially and so I get opportunities at times because I'm well aware of the fact that private
What he private real estate private credit are actually much bigger businesses for the last 35 years here this for everybody. Okay, the last 35 years private Equity firms have done better than every stock market in the world on average better than average of all those so example the S&P 500 the one that most people know in the United States that they, you know will invest in if you put that that's over the last 35 years has gone up 9.2 percent compounded on average per year to put your money in.
And he keeps growing it's pretty lies. You're pretty swell. Yeah, but if you were an average not by the way, when I went to interview people for this I interviewed the 13 biggest private Equity guys, the world run hundred billion dollars right who make more money than God basically the smartest ones and so to find out what they're doing because these guys all make like 20% plus per year not 14 and a half. So nine point two verses fourteen point two fourteen point two is the average private Equity. These are not average. That's 50% better per year to grow your finances on
Put that into what people understand you compound with that means if you put a million dollars 35 years ago in the stock market it's with 26 million right now. It's unbelievable. But if you put a million dollars in private Equity, it's worth 129 million same money. Same amount of time God. Yeah, so it's like so and so most people know they don't know about much. Yeah, but they know private Equity does really well and one of the reasons is your money's tied up for five years. So if the market goes up and down they don't feel so so when the Marcos down a buy right and they'll come they buy a company they build it up.
Up, they make it more valuable and they sell it to another company or they take it public and they when things are good. They saw them on things or not. They buy so they've got a lot of room and they make money a lot of ways. If you put your money into these firms, they get two percent of your money every year no matter what for managing. Oh, well, they make money or lose it. So they have a billion dollar fund. They make 20 million a year for five years. They have a hundred million dollars guaranteed before they open their mouth then they get 20% of The Upside if they help it to grow. It's not uncommon for these guys to go from a billion to two billion and $5.
This means that make 20% of that. It is billion. They make another 200 million dollars to make 300 million dollars on what originally was a billion. So when you look at the Ford's 400 them richest people in the world who say are they Tech guys are they real estate guys know the number one or financial services its private Equity. So watch this
this is mind-boggling is this sounds like it's all for rich people. That's what I want to tell you. Okay. I'm just saying
so, you know and you're right and it has been here's what's change Congress the house just passed a law bipartisan that said the richest people in the world having
Access to this is not fair and the argument has been well, it's more sophisticated. Well, they came up with our way to do it, which is you made a minimum any money building a business. You don't know about investing but you get to make these Investments. If you can get in they passed a law that now says and not house has done it the Christmas vacation just come in they're coming back and they're going to vote in the Senate looks like it's going to pass there as well. You can take a test. I can show you a study for you pass the test you get access to these things, but there's another problem access.
Because it's like buying an exotic car. If you got like a you know, one of the new Ferraris not not a standard one that's you know, one of the high ends the Ferraris there's a line of people waiting to buy Mall just like that. So it's not enough to have money. You got to know the right people. So these funds you know, as I got more money and I was more famous. I knew people I could get into some of these times but I could get a sliver or some I couldn't even get in there already sold out of like are so frustrated. So one day I'm talking to my friend Paul Tudor Jones is a partner that broke off and start his own business. I'm just basically
And this is so frustrating because these opportunities are so huge. I've got resources but I can't even get in. Yeah, he said Tony I'm going to tell you a little secret. I'll tell you where I put most of my money and I'm leaning forward as this is a big big play, right? Yeah get that level tell me tell me tell me what it is. He goes there's this company in Texas that does something really unique. There's a few but they're the best I've seen as in Texas in normally her Singapore London, New York, right? Oh, yeah, Connecticut. He goes. Yeah, he's a Tony you don't have to fight to become an
Stir in one of those funds. He said when you are an investor in a private Equity they call you a limited partner. That's the legal name they use for it. Okay, the owner of the
fund and private Equity just sitting what do you explain what it is really fast.
It's buying companies that are not public. Okay, which
is most companies right
and you build it. They put money in it. They bring new CEO. They build the new Teen they do new marketing. They make the company stronger and they sell it when you sell a business you get a multiple on the
prophets. Okay got it. So I was very investing in those sorts of things. That's private equity.
They have funds that invest over a period of time and they do it. They're definitely public. Well, they're open to the public but usually they're gone if they're really
good. They're really gone. They're
gone right right away, right? So he says to me he goes Tony you can become an owner in the business itself and all those funds not just own a fund and you can get the same two-and-twenty like you earned the two percent in twenty. You'll make about 10% on your investment per year as an owner. Wow, and you get all the funds past present future the ones they did was low in
inflation the ones and high inflation in the future. Once they want to do I'm like, how do you do that? He was I'm gonna do seu these guys called Kaz ca's either based out of Houston. So I meet this guy it turns out 25 years ago. He started his career using my stuff and started this business. He's been incredibly successful. He's one of the biggest it's called GP steaks you own a general partnership sake you're an owner you get the benefit of an owner and you want all the funds. So I now own a piece of 65 different funds. They're not little fun. So not billion bond funds. There are 100 billion funds like Vista a mine.
In dollars and they're growing like weeds and I get huge income like I'm an owner and I get the upside like an owner and I get what an investor would get all the same and then you say well, why would they do that? Are they want to retire? No years ago. They used to just get companies and to try to leverage them and sell them for pieces that sold this nobody does anymore. They build them but they have to put their own money into so investors go if you're on the line with me and will invest more so there's a company called Bane that after
And eight when people were shaky is that we're going to raise four billion dollars. We're going to put 800 million of our own money in that's kind of the standard now. So if you're putting money on you open a new fund every couple years and it's tied up for five years your cash flow can be tight. So some they want more money to keep growing. So if you know the right people and do things so now I'm a part of that but anyone can become a part of that. Although it's ignorance is not Bliss right ignorance is poverty knowing this changes the game. I'll give you another one.
So please and learn that in this book. We
explain exactly how to do it. Okay, and then
No one like all these Rings right for years. I wanted you know, I wanted to be a professional athlete. I wasn't good enough. It didn't work out well, but then I was like, wow, I got to work with all these athletes and turn them around. So the best of the world, you know, get to visit the guy like Tom Brady got, you know record all these guys, you know, see what they're like and what they're doing. Well, I started turning these teams around and I started getting the championship rings that I would have and I've got him here from hockey. I've got a mirror from NBA have gotten me a brawl.
He's like a dream come true in this all I'll
do a me how many people like Michael
Jordan a few other people have six MVP rings. I got it
six rings anyway, so she this is a man, you
know, that's how it's a man,
you know, unless they're hotter
but they're cherish me but here's what I tell you. So then I was like, I want to own a sports team, you know, I finally got enough money to participate and I finally, you know, then they take a microscope to for a year to do it. It's unbelievable. And so I helped build the LFC football club was one of the original investors in it's great. But now there's a new rule that's come about in the last couple years.
Hers and specialized in it allows you to buy a piece even a tiny piece of multiple sports teams and be an owner and the reason you want to do it is this Sports is not tied to the stock market's non-correlated stock market goes up or down doesn't affect sports sports have done. Well during recessions depressions player strikes covid everything. They've still done well to return from from Major League Baseball from Vienna gel from the NBA at from soccer those four spots.
It's keeps growing as averaged at 18% a year in the last ten years. So it's twice as much as the stock market to give you an idea and it's fun. But here's the best part. They're no longer is put in Bots and seats and they have a legal Monopoly. They can they own that City. No one else can compete with them and their fans are weird fan comes from Fanatics. Their customers are Fanatics multiple Generations. So my friend Peter guber he bought the Dodgers with my friend Magic Johnson a group of other people and
No one is paid to billion dollars only Dodgers 2 billion. No one had paid a billion for a team yet. And everybody said it should have been a billion overpaid by a billion. So I went to Peter and I said Peter I know you're no dummy is my partner and businesses. We own sports team together at AFC and I said, you got to tell me the secret cause I know you're not dumb you're not gonna overpay by a billion dollars. It's a lot he says to me because Tony, you know, he's made 52 Academy Award make movies. He's a total genius. So he said, you know, I'm not dumb you're right he goes
How are you? What I want to leave you in suspense. I'm going to make an announcement in two days and you call me come on over and we'll laugh together. So sure enough two days later. They announced he paid to billion for the team. He sold the local TV rights for seven billion dollars made five billion instantly. No way then get you to the soccer. That's for football. I'm Excuse me for the LA Dodgers out as a doctor. He sold the right. Yeah. So seven billion now you also when you're on a sports team the NBA MLB Major League Baseball, whatever you get a piece of the action.
Revenue for every single team doesn't matter if you're big or small so his local rights alone made in 5 billion. So you probably saw the gentleman. He just brought on and
began a tiny. Yes. And yeah, is that his name? So hey, yeah, and here's I'm sure so the amount of money ball
re-run of monies being paid is more than anybody in history. Wow, and how are they doing it? Well, they're doing it because they know that the ad Revenue they get from Japanese advertising so forth. We'll pay it times many more. Do you know if you watch television?
Today because of cord-cutting nobody wants to watch commercials. So 92 of the last hundred top shows our Sports because you don't think about making a film for Netflix like a series you gotta pay actors down here all that's got you set up your camera shoot it's cheap to do and people are willing to watch because it's live and then I'll watch the ads just like Super Bowl right now. It's all the ads so it that business and then they buy their real estate around it. They become media Moguls. So now I own a Warrior's Island the Dodgers home.
Red Sox I own the Pittsburgh
Penguins how you have a piece in what I
teach them this book. It's a piece of these different businesses these Sports businesses and it's non-correlated people can get into that shows you how to do it. And you do a tiny amount small amounts. Yeah. I'll give you one last one bonds you end up. I'm not very familiar is this you have done a lot of this. Is it caught him? What did he
do?
Oh, no what I'm talking about? No, I'm sorry. I'm talking about stocks and
bonds. Sorry. Yes, no
problem. I was like yeah bonds for years because of low interest rates have given you no return. So people taking bigger and bigger risks. So back in 2021, you know, you're making no money. So there's a type of bond that is not very stable. It's very risky and they call them high yield bonds. They're actually called Junk bonds because they're very risky. They were paying three point nine percent in 2021 before the interest rates rise and
People are buying them because there's no other place to get income. I was making nine percent on private credit. What is private credit? Yes Banks don't want a lot of people really high-end businesses hundred million to three billion dollar businesses need money to grow. Well where they go, they go to private credit. Now these organizations now loan you money and they usually loaned it, you know just a few years ago at like 5% 6% for a
loan. So banks are borrowing money from people.
No companies need to borrow money from Banks.
And Banks don't do it and apple will get their money something like that. But a lot of businesses won't there's 200,000 business in the United States between 100 million and three billion to give me 90 right gigantic. They need money. So there's become a new market. It's these private Equity guys loaning them money, but they put their own money in it. So they don't sell the loan off. So they are really picky about who they put in they build good long-term relationships. They have less than a one percent failure rate. No Bank on Earth has that they'd be dreaming about that.
Their vote, you know, if you I'll give you an example to make your audience can relate to if you had a house and a mortgage that was fixed when interest rates went up. You don't care. You're still here. It's only three percent, but when you bought a loan on a business is usually a floating rate. So when interest rates go it rises up. So those same private credit firms that loaned you money at three and a half percent.
Guess what? Excuse me five or six percent now, it's 11 percent plus the same loan with the same company and you're making twice or three times as much money as before. So when people are taking risk 23.9 percent. I'm going to one percent failure rate and I'm making nine percent now, I'm in the high teens on my private credit and I own those firms. So I also get the two percent and get the twenty percent and I get the upside on those pieces. So those are just three examples. I gave you seven examples of industries that you can do and show you exactly
Actually how to do it and then the second half of the book is these 13 Masters of the Universe these guys that you know, like Robert Smith who runs Vista it's a famous firm hundred billion dollars in business. He started with he started with nothing. He's the wealthiest African-American the United States Genius of man. I love this. I don't hell. Yeah. Thank you. He he focuses on one industry and software as a service called SAS, but he knows it. So well that he can take a company you already knows what to do with the CEO what to do how to grow?
It grows it rapidly. He's got his whole system for doing it. He grows the business and then he sells it to a bigger company or takes it public is returns. I can't quote as returns because you have to ask him about it, but they're all above 20% for decades for decades. So think about what that would do to your family future. What would it take in say 10 years to double you can do in three years. And so this isn't the only thing you do. Yeah, but it's one of the most important things that most people don't know about and it was never available before
now it's available you can because there's a new legislation a lot of this.
Is available its grip and is there a downside to it? I mean there's risk with
everything. That's right. Well at least amount of risk compared to bonds less. Okay, but then the second other than say treasuries on the private Equity side again, since they have your money for a longer period you get a lot larger return but there's less risk. The reason there's less risk is because when things drop in the stock market, they don't have to sell they go by then right when things are up they go sell been so they have more room to play with in time stead of oh my God, whether you do this quarter, where do you get the stock up this?
This day they don't have to do that. I think allows them to make better decisions. Got
it. They had
we give 100 my last three books. I've done this giving 100% of all the profits in the book go to feeding America. So while you're helping yourself, you help people that are really in need as
well same for this and the profits are going to die because of all that's amazing man. Thank you. That's cool man. I IE and outside. I know we're all grateful for that. You know, can I get a copy of the book to horse? That's sweet man. Of course, there's like this my last
So there is we're kind of at a time in the world where I think a lot of people are under a little bit. It's a precarious time. It feels like right and some of that a lot of uncertainties some of that maybe media influence of it may not we don't know but there's just a lot going on. There's a lot going on and it used to feel like you could leave the world a better place, right? It used to be something that I think gave people a lot of purpose right? Like I mean, I want to leave the world a better place and I think now
now there's sometimes feels like the way your the world has gotten its flared up and we can't do that. I'm not saying that's true. But it sometimes it feels like that. And so I think that caused a lot of people to it really takes away a sense of purpose at a level probably an almost limbic or animal level that we don't even realize what can people do
To combat that
first thing I do is I would cut down my consumption of the news turn off all the things that go on your phone not to become a Hermit or something. But you gotta remember the news people are good people. They don't have bad intent, but they have to do one thing. They're doing their job their job as make more money for the shareholders. There's only one way to do that get more of your eyeballs. I don't your eyeballs upset you anger you produce fear. If I do those things we all know in journalism. We talk if it bleeds it leads, right?
Used to be again a plane crashed in Nigeria you to know about it now, you know about it within seconds. So it's there's actually all the studies show. There's less violence today, but we see everything more magnified right? We're also in a stage and kind of History we go through stages and I won't try to be complex explain the whole thing to you. But if you study a thousand years of Roman history 500 years Anglo American history we go through 1820 or Cycles where we run an emotion as a culture as a whole doesn't mean you're going to feel that way.
So in the springtime everybody's optimistic, I don't mean physical spring. I might That season right and things grow and it's easy. So like after World War Two we went in springtime here is like all thank God it's over. Everybody have lots of sex. That was a baby. Boom, right? Oh, yeah, you know if you were if you are veteran you were like you got to have a house for free right? No money down that thing it was a cool time for a lot of people not everyone but a lot of people
yeah the culture right but
then from 1945 to 1963 and 63 were the height of optimism Kennedy's the president.
Garrity and he gets assassinated and then Robert Kennedy and then Martin Luther King and what happens is we go through a summer time where everything is tested and there's fighting within the country. There's it's called Summer. It's like it happens every 80 years like clockwork. I can take you there's a there's a really cool
book Strauss how generational theory is that
if you read stress out about generational Theory, there's a book called the fourth turning I interviewed these guys for the Turning fourth turning it's a book worth reading because what you'll
Be reading about how life is and it's like right now and then they reveal that from 80 years ago from The New York Times and then you read another one. It's from 160 years ago. And you're like, this is crazy. So it's a cycle that we go through. So after we're done with the optimism we get burnt out we go through the summer of tasks than upset. Then we have another good time. We have fall where everything is easy. You want a house. You have no money will give you a loan right buddy easy easy money, right and everything's easy. Then that's always followed by a winter now some Winters a long summer short.
My hard some are relatively easy, but you never go from Fall to Spring you got to go through winter, right? We're in Winter right now. So think about it the people that were grown up in try this for size. Most people don't study their history, but just take this for a second if you were born in like 1910. What does that mean? Well World War one was going on while you're growing up. So you were protected you didn't go to war. You don't have to face it your family looked out for you that have been a tough time, but you made it through it and we won the war and came home right around that time like now is a massive technology.
The Breakthrough like we're experiencing with AI and so forth what happened we went from nothing to radios televisions cars planes like and the Roaring 20s. So if you're growing up and you're in that 02:21, you're born in 1910, you're thinking what I'm 1920. I'm getting a car. I'm gonna party and the kids then were looked down on there called Flappers because they were irresponsible very much like older Generations often talk about Millennials are some generation because one is the rich are great people, but they haven't faced anything really big they think
It's his words, right? You know, Chris Rock's is viewing file into words and one slap the shit out of you on National Television. That's Violet. It's a different thing. Right? So but when you've never experienced anything you think that's pain is that your idea of pain, right? So they're right about that but I have no worries. These are going to be the heroes Millennials and z's are going to be heroes the future. Here's how I know it 1910 when they turned 19 and they thought they're going to go party. What happened was 1929 in the whole world was upside down suddenly people jumping out of buildings stand in food lines and Midwest is
A dust bowl
at market crash everything. So these
people had to get tough. They were weak as shit, but they had to get tough because it was required to survive. So by the way, they do ten years of the depression. It's not bad every day. There were some ups and downs pretty rough times on a suit a soup. That's good one, but now they turned 29. It's 1939 and that's when World War Two breaks out and you and I weren't alive then but Hitler was taking countries one after her looks like we're going to
lose. Yeah, they
fought that war in one they became what's known?
The great generation the greatest Generation because they face these difficult things. Well the end of the winter and Springtime at Springtime once we got through that then went through a hot summer think of how the 60s and 70s were so different than the 80s 90s or 2000s. Yeah. And so we go through these Cycles. So we're in Winter right now and winter makes it look much worse than it is. But here's the good news about winter. It's going to take that younger generation and they're going to become Heroes. They're smart. They're connected they care but they're not as strong as they will be.
Because they haven't like lifting weights and maybe you take a light weight and lift it. I don't care how many you do 100 curls. You're not going to get anything. You take away. You can barely lift and do you can only do it curls in your trainer makes you do 11 and you that 11 curl gives you 90 percent of the growth we're going to go through that experience. We already are to some extent but people need is to create a compelling future. They need to know that this went no war is forever. No economy is forever. No, you know plant pandemic or blend them again.
The story don't fall in that's a trap. That's right. So you also have to have a plan for
yourself and you can see that like if you were the universe or God after the night you create the day. Yeah, you know, it's like they get bored of it works and that's what makes us grow and winter also gets rid of the weak and strong not only survive but they find a way to thrive when you look at the biggest companies in the world of Fortune 1000 80% scuse me seventy percent of them were developed during a recession or depression. Wow, because when you do well then you're going to do well during all the other see
Season so if you start a business right now and it's hard and you do it. Well, like I started my business during the last really tough time, which was when interest rates were 18
percent now they were really that 18 years.
Hi. I'm not why today people are freaking out going 7% Oh my God, I can't get house. Try. I bought my first house at 18 years old. It was 18% You're not going to make any money at 18% I lost money on the house. It was horrible, right but that's what it was in those days, but I had to get strong and here I am 46 years.
Hours later and I'm very well with a lot of other people started when it was easy and they're
gone. Yeah. Wow, so that's good. It's a good way to look at it man. I think it goes back to what we said. The meaning is talking about perspective, you know, yes, like have a perspective perspective have a bigger perspective have a bigger perspective of what's going on in your own life, man. I don't think it's anything else you guys think of anything. I think we've spent a lot of your time to and
we really enjoyed this year. Yeah. Me too. I really I'm listen. I love your humor, but I really want to thank you for your vulnerability because I got a lot of
people watching you and you're leading by example and not being perfect. I'm not saying you're supposed to I'm not perfect. Nobody is yeah, but you're growing brother and and those emotions you felt you're going to feel those a lot less as you keep on this track pretty soon. They won't be something to identify with you. It'll be like cigarettes. You're like by the way, do you feel bad about the cigarettes? So you no longer there with them. You've left them behind I do miss him. Yeah, you're not going to miss
those negative emotions is ever like I go like, you know go like just you know
do like them. Hey, dude, I'm sorry. Are you as a tweet?
Board like to talk to a pack of Winston's or something, you know? Yeah, I don't do anything like that. I'm glad to hear that. Thank you man. Thank you for taking some time into just help us learn about that because I think a lot of my listeners are really similar to me and so I'm grateful for that and
I hope they join because it's free.
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They'd all say this sit. And listen to Tony is really really interesting even just being here. So if this is anything what it's like at the summer, that's cool, man. I so yeah, I'm excited about it man, January 25th to 27th on my good friend Aaron levie goes has been to a couple of them and time to rise some it.com and we'll put the link right here Below guys. Yeah, we'll put the link everywhere and we'll share it.
So I've got about a million million how people will do it from all over the country all over the world 195 countries. She'll meet some cool people to online to its kind
One man. Well, thank you for first of all, just learning about stuff over your life, but also being willing to share it. I think you know when we don't share stuff it's like it keeps things from other people. It's right. So it's been I think a lot of people have been helped by that and so thank you so much. Thank you and have a great. Yeah. Cheers, brother.
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